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Sea of red
03-26-2016, 03:37 PM
It was probably a mistake to comeback to this forum while my emotions are so high.

Recently, I've had to watch my beloved Labrador of sixteen years draw closer to her end, and it's ripped my hear like nothing else. I've been through break-ups, broken arms, cracked pelvis, vertigo, family troubles, and career issues but this is the worst pain I've ever felt in my life. I was going to do it today but it wasn't the right moment for several reasons.

Thing is, I've dealt with this dozens of times before but this time is just so much worse. After she's gone, I will not have an animal for the first time in my life. I've had to go through the process and then bury them afterwards but she's just different - though I truly loved all of animals equally. She's got a personality like no other It seems like just yesterday I found her - she was a stray. I can honestly she has been more faithful and loving than many of the people in my life.

Despite all of this I would do it all over again without a second though, and I hope you all will too. If you are thinking of getting a pet (or someone else is) please adopt one from a shelter, you will be saving it's life! And man... do they give you something in return that you can't put a price on.

https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=1&cad=rja&uact=8&ved=0ahUKEwiK1M7RtN_LAhVGSiYKHVYIDBkQFggyMAA&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.aspca.org%2F&usg=AFQjCNHdkBkJD83hOgZJU8UM6RSrKfmUqw&bvm=bv.117868183,d.eWE :flowers:

Bill the Cat
03-26-2016, 04:29 PM
:pray: I know it is hard Sea. My dad found a stray puppy on the James River when I was young, and we had Ace for 16 years. He was my dad's buddy. When the time finally came, he couldn't bear to turn around and walk away, so the attendant at the shelter had to take him and go behind a closed door. To this day, 20 years later, my dad has never wanted another dog. They become part of you. So sorry for your pain.

Bill

Cow Poke
03-26-2016, 05:02 PM
It was probably a mistake to comeback to this forum while my emotions are so high.

Recently, I've had to watch my beloved Labrador of sixteen years draw closer to her end, and it's ripped my hear like nothing else. I've been through break-ups, broken arms, cracked pelvis, vertigo, family troubles, and career issues but this is the worst pain I've ever felt in my life. I was going to do it today but it wasn't the right moment for several reasons.

Thing is, I've dealt with this dozens of times before but this time is just so much worse. After she's gone, I will not have an animal for the first time in my life. I've had to go through the process and then bury them afterwards but she's just different - though I truly loved all of animals equally. She's got a personality like no other It seems like just yesterday I found her - she was a stray. I can honestly she has been more faithful and loving than many of the people in my life.

Despite all of this I would do it all over again without a second though, and I hope you all will too. If you are thinking of getting a pet (or someone else is) please adopt one from a shelter, you will be saving it's life! And man... do they give you something in return that you can't put a price on.

https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=1&cad=rja&uact=8&ved=0ahUKEwiK1M7RtN_LAhVGSiYKHVYIDBkQFggyMAA&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.aspca.org%2F&usg=AFQjCNHdkBkJD83hOgZJU8UM6RSrKfmUqw&bvm=bv.117868183,d.eWE :flowers:

OK, I used to be one of those who would have said, "oh, grow up, it's just a dog".

Then Jake came a long.

I didn't want a dog - my wife did. And we rescued Jake from a shelter where, supposedly, the next day was to be Jake's "bad day".

For whatever reason, Jake took to me. He pretty much ignores my wife, and follows me everywhere, sitting at my feet, laying on the floor on my side of the bed, wanting to go for car rides with me, etc....

It didn't take long at all to realize how much it would hurt if something happened to Jake. He's only 5 people years old, and I'm already thinking about....

I can't say I understand how you feel, SoR.... but I think I'm heading in that direction.

:hug:

mossrose
03-26-2016, 05:19 PM
I do understand how you feel, sea.

I had to take our last 2 cats to the vet for their last visit. About 5 years apart. It tore me up to leave them there, especially the last one. We got her from a shelter as a wee kitten, and she lived with us about 18 years. As she aged, we decided that she would our last pet. And I cannot remember a time in my life when there was not a cat in the house.

I still miss her horribly. I still see her sometimes out of the corner of my eye, in one of her favourite haunts around the house. And she's been gone 5 years or so.

Our pets manage to insert themselves into our homes and hearts with very little effort, and the pain of losing a beloved animal is very real.

I am so sorry for your loss.

:hug:

rogue06
03-26-2016, 06:02 PM
:hug:

While I've had and loved several dogs over the years there is still only one that I always think of as "my dog." That was nearly 30 years ago. He was one of my closest and dearest friends. He was family. He died when he was only ten and had been sick for about the last two. The last of his many trips to the vet it was the only time he refused to let the nurse take him into the back. He insisted on coming back to me and jumped up and licked my face. He died less than an hour later. It was like he knew and wanted to say good bye. I know that I will never stop missing him.

Catholicity
03-31-2016, 06:58 AM
I totally understand. Losing a pet is the loss of a family. I've lost three. My first two were my kitty cat, one partial stray we started feeding when she was a kitten, eventually we took her in and she lived with us for her long 17 year life the the other a rescue kitten whom developed fatty liver and only lived 5 years The last was our beloved Standard Poodle Hannah, who passed a few years ago and watching her life draw to a close was gut wrenching for me. Animal companionship is part of who we are as humans.

One Bad Pig
03-31-2016, 07:10 AM
Yeah, it's tough losing a beloved pet. And 16 years for a lab is doing pretty good.

I'm not much of a dog person, but I'll even miss my aunt & uncle's dogs when they go - the viszla seems to have taken a shine to me for some reason.

mossrose
03-31-2016, 07:17 AM
Perhaps you smell like bacon?

rogue06
03-31-2016, 09:52 AM
Perhaps you smell like bacon?
:hehe:

Sparko
03-31-2016, 10:08 AM
It was probably a mistake to comeback to this forum while my emotions are so high.

Recently, I've had to watch my beloved Labrador of sixteen years draw closer to her end, and it's ripped my hear like nothing else. I've been through break-ups, broken arms, cracked pelvis, vertigo, family troubles, and career issues but this is the worst pain I've ever felt in my life. I was going to do it today but it wasn't the right moment for several reasons.

Thing is, I've dealt with this dozens of times before but this time is just so much worse. After she's gone, I will not have an animal for the first time in my life. I've had to go through the process and then bury them afterwards but she's just different - though I truly loved all of animals equally. She's got a personality like no other It seems like just yesterday I found her - she was a stray. I can honestly she has been more faithful and loving than many of the people in my life.

Despite all of this I would do it all over again without a second though, and I hope you all will too. If you are thinking of getting a pet (or someone else is) please adopt one from a shelter, you will be saving it's life! And man... do they give you something in return that you can't put a price on.

https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=1&cad=rja&uact=8&ved=0ahUKEwiK1M7RtN_LAhVGSiYKHVYIDBkQFggyMAA&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.aspca.org%2F&usg=AFQjCNHdkBkJD83hOgZJU8UM6RSrKfmUqw&bvm=bv.117868183,d.eWE :flowers:

I went through that with my last dog, Max. He was truly my best friend. He ended up with cancer when he was 13, and I just couldn't let him go. I spent around $4K to get him treatments and they actually helped and he gained another year. But the cancer came back and I had to put him to sleep when it got too bad. It was like ripping my own heart out. I felt like I was betraying him by taking him to the vet to be put to sleep. I know I was stopping his suffering but I felt so guilty. I held him as he died and I cried for about a week every time I thought of him (still get misty even writing this). I tried to go without a pet for a while but after only a couple of months the house felt so empty I decided to get another dog. I went to a schnauzer rescue and found my next buddy, Taz. Taz is now almost 13 years old himself, and they just found a heart murmer in him. Other than that he is still doing well, but I know he can't last that much longer and the pain will be back again. I only pray that when his time comes, it comes naturally and I don't have to put him to sleep.

It is truly rough losing a pet. They are with you every day, loving you and playing with you.

I am glad you came back here SoR. I hope you find a new best friend when your current one is gone. It really does help with the pain.

Sparko
03-31-2016, 10:14 AM
I think that people and pets are so special because they are examples of how God wanted us to relate to the animals when he created Adam and Eve. He gave mankind dominion over the animals, not to harm them or control them, but to guide them and work with them and love them. And pets love us and look to us the way God intended. There is love and trust between us and our pets.

Jedidiah
03-31-2016, 11:47 AM
I am glad you came back here SoR. I hope you find a new best friend when your current one is gone. It really does help with the pain.

A few years ago we lost two dogs in one weeek. We decided that there would be no more dogs. It just hurt too much to lose them. But eventually we got another dog and love her dearly.

Sparko
03-31-2016, 12:07 PM
A few years ago we lost two dogs in one weeek. We decided that there would be no more dogs. It just hurt too much to lose them. But eventually we got another dog and love her dearly.yeah that was what I was going to do. I rationalized it by saying I couldn't deal with the loss again, and a pet ties you down, you can't leave it alone too long without having to come home to take care of it, or you have to put it in a kennel during trips, etc. But the reality is that the pet is more than worth the trouble and loss is part of life, and the joy you get from the pet makes up for it all.

I will definitely get another dog when Taz passes away. I was thinking of getting another one now to buffer the loss when it happens, but taking care of two dogs costs too much and is too much for me to handle right now. Plus Taz is an ornery old dog who just wants to be left alone to lay on the couch. A puppy or younger dog would just bother him too much.

rogue06
03-31-2016, 12:31 PM
yeah that was what I was going to do. I rationalized it by saying I couldn't deal with the loss again, and a pet ties you down, you can't leave it alone too long without having to come home to take care of it, or you have to put it in a kennel during trips, etc. But the reality is that the pet is more than worth the trouble and loss is part of life, and the joy you get from the pet makes up for it all.

I will definitely get another dog when Taz passes away. I was thinking of getting another one now to buffer the loss when it happens, but taking care of two dogs costs too much and is too much for me to handle right now. Plus Taz is an ornery old dog who just wants to be left alone to lay on the couch. A puppy or younger dog would just bother him too much.
It's hard work keeping the couch from floating off :yes:

Sparko
03-31-2016, 12:32 PM
It's hard work keeping the couch from floating off :yes:I help out all I can.

Sea of red
05-07-2016, 04:45 PM
Mossrose asked me to keep you guys informed.

Well, after six weeks of a 'second wind' I finally had set her free of this world, and she is buried next to all of her little friends.

RIP Layla. I loved you too much to force you to stay here and hang-on for my sake.

Thanks for all of the support.

Cow Poke
05-07-2016, 04:49 PM
Mossrose asked me to keep you guys informed.

Well, after six weeks of a 'second wind' I finally had set her free of this world, and she is buried next to all of her little friends.

RIP Layla. I loved you too much to force you to stay here and hang-on for my sake.

Thanks for all of the support.

So sorry, SoR. Please accept my "praying for you" as well intentioned.

mossrose
05-07-2016, 05:02 PM
Mossrose asked me to keep you guys informed.

Well, after six weeks of a 'second wind' I finally had set her free of this world, and she is buried next to all of her little friends.

RIP Layla. I loved you too much to force you to stay here and hang-on for my sake.

Thanks for all of the support.

I am so sorry for your loss, sea. A heartbreaking thing to have to do, but so necessary sometimes. I will be praying for comfort for you.

Thank you so much for updating us.

:hug:

Bill the Cat
05-07-2016, 05:16 PM
Mossrose asked me to keep you guys informed.

Well, after six weeks of a 'second wind' I finally had set her free of this world, and she is buried next to all of her little friends.

RIP Layla. I loved you too much to force you to stay here and hang-on for my sake.

Thanks for all of the support.

Dang Sea. So sorry for your loss.

Sea of red
05-07-2016, 05:17 PM
Thank you all.

Teallaura
05-07-2016, 06:27 PM
:hug:


I am so sorry for your loss - and for the pain you are going through. There aren't good words that make it all better - it's not supposed to be all better so fast. God didn't make hearts that couldn't be broken or that could heal instantly because such hearts would also never truly know love or joy. But He did give us hearts that can cry when our friend's hearts are broken so that we can help bear that grief, even just a little.

We pray for you for the same reason we cry with you - because we do love you. Just know that you aren't alone - even if it is just us pixel people on that annoying forum...

:hug: I'm so sorry you lost your girl.

rogue06
05-07-2016, 06:54 PM
My sincere condolences.

Trout
05-08-2016, 07:32 AM
Every time my wife brings home a dog from the shelter I imagine the scene that ends its life.

So much death on this planet earth.