Verbal Abuse

[Jade]

Ok, let's delve into a stickier issue.

Is verbal abuse on par with physical abuse? You often hear people treating it as such.

Do you think a woman would be justified in leaving her husband for verbal abuse?

[Salus]

I think if it is verbal abuse that goes beyond the limits of a heated argument and on more than a few occasions then by all means, the woman is justified in leaving.

My wife and I used to argue and fight and bicker almost 24x7 after we got married. Seriously, the first two, maybe three years were horribly miserable. We talked about divorce, yes that ugly "D" word, quite often. But we had children and something (later, once saved, we realized it was God) was keeping us together so we continued to press on. Finally, we became born-again Christians. Once we devoted ourselves to the Lord, we started seeing HUGE changes. But to be safe certain that the changes were for real, we attended a Christian family counseling service for nine weeks and it made all the difference in the world. I'll be the first to admit that I still make mistakes but oour arguments are never, never as bad as they were in the first couple years of marriage.

That is my story and testimony for saving a marriage and if you notice, we were both Christians when we made the decision to fix our life together. What a woman decides to do with her marriage and her husband depends a lot on several factors. Has the abuse been above and beyond normal arguments? Are both woman and husband a Christian? Has the abuse gone on for a long time? What has been the result of the verbal assault and abuse? Depending on the answer to these questions, among others, then perhaps, if there is no other way or solution in sight, a woman would need to leave such a situation and at that point, yes, I would believe she is justified in taking action and leaving.

[Xmansmommy]

Jade,
Sister I'm sorry I don't know the answer to this question biblically, but I did want you to know that I have read your question and pondered it. But sorry to say from a "worldly" point of view. Great ? Perhaps someone will be able to come and address this question biblically. Thanks for asking it. :thumb:

In Christ,
Linda

[Xmansmommy]

GREAT Testimony Salus! Thanks for sharing. I think you brought up some very pertinent points. Perhaps the answer to those questions might be able to provide some insight on this topic, I dunno. Come on TW'rs what's the answer?!?!? :tongue: