Polygamy?

[Queen]

You had conceded that most women find the idea abhorrent. Too bad you regret using an accurate word. It is abhorrently disgusting.

Well, to be honest.....another woman in this house would be......nice :wink: j/k

I have heard also other stories, of women who were very happy and enjoyed their marriage. So, I think this is an individual look at life and love. As long as the man respects his wives and treat them the same ....as equals, I do not see anything wrong with it.

I wonder why it is wrong. I believe that Mormons have polygamy marriages because it is in the bible and thus allowed by God (according to their faith.....I have no real insight in the different views of the bible......)

Lots of love and sunshine,
Queen

[Queen]

Okay, I know...but why do Mormons can marry more females. It is the same bible/God to me. So, what is the difference here?

[sprky777]

Queen:

Well, to be honest.....another woman in this house would be......nice :wink: j/k

I have heard also other stories, of women who were very happy and enjoyed their marriage. So, I think this is an individual look at life and love. As long as the man respects his wives and treat them the same ....as equals, I do not see anything wrong with it.

I wonder why it is wrong. I believe that Mormons have polygamy marriages because it is in the bible and thus allowed by God (according to their faith.....I have no real insight in the different views of the bible......)

Lots of love and sunshine,
Queen

Hi Queen,
Since Dee Dee and Tyreth have withdrawn from the field, I would like to explore your views on this subject. It shoud be a fair diversion of the thread, afterall, Dee Dee frequently brings up the emotional side of the issue.

People on the Polygamy side view the old testament examples of the patriarchs having more than one wife and many examples of blessings resulting from such relationships.

People on the Monogamy side view multiple wives as adultery or as a primitive lifestyle that 'modern' society has no use for.

What are your opinions and feelings?

[Queen]

Hi sprky777,

Gosh, nice question.

My view is that we are primates, and mammals. Most mammals lead polygamous lives, primates are a great example. The monogamous human way of life is in a way 'unnatural'. Society demands that we have monogamous relationships and with all the STD's of the past few years, monogamous relationships are seen as something that saves lives. But the infidelity in our society is high with an average of 80% for both genders. Both males and females seek their second parnter outside of a marriage. Even if it is just mental infidelity. (The brain is the sex organ of our body.)

Polygamous relationships would be more normal. But humans have one 'bad' quality. They get possessive. Their partner'belongs to them and no one is allowed to even look at him or her (in extreme possessive relationships). This is like treating your partner as part of the interior instead of a self-aware individual.

I believe we all have the right to choose the way we want to live, and society should not have so many pointless rules and definitions about marriage and so on. These things are giving such a boring average view on marriage love and sexual attraction that I am not surprised by the urge to watch all these programs and movies that are so filled with sex......Our brain seeks the need we have to find some sort of satifaction in these rules in society....(not all rules are bad of course, but I see them more as guidelines. Laws and rules are needed, but hmans tend to find a rule for everything we do....)

My two cents of course...

Lots of love and sunshine,
Queen

[sprky777]

Queen:

...The monogamous human way of life is in a way 'unnatural'....Both males and females seek their second parnter outside of a marriage....Polygamous relationships would be more normal. But humans have one 'bad' quality. They get possessive. Their partner'belongs to them and no one is allowed to even look at him or her (in extreme possessive relationships). This is like treating your partner as part of the interior instead of a self-aware individual.

A Christian marriage is a union, possessiveness is part of protecting your own body. But that should not be the same as jealousy. Respect for each other as an individual still remains. But a wife is mine 'until death do us part'. Another male can recogize her as attractive, valuable, good and desirable but the permanence of the relationship must be respected.



I believe we all have the right to choose the way we want to live, and society should not have so many pointless rules and definitions about marriage and so on....Our brain seeks the need we have to find some sort of satifaction in these rules in society....(not all rules are bad of course, but I see them more as guidelines. Laws and rules are needed, but humans tend to find a rule for everything we do....)


True, the rules Christians choose to live by are given by God to us in the Bible. Plus there is the 'natural law' that is written in our own minds. There is a biological morality to some extent.

As Christians, we need to seek to better ourselves. We study the word of God and how it affects society and human culture. We fill the needs of our minds through study, interaction with Christians, prayer, and strive to do good works.

This thread is merely an exercise for the mind. One can read and study extensively on a subject and never benefit from the minds of others. Immense amounts of time are spent by people on forums, the value of this resource should not remain untapped.

I don't mind interacting with non-Christians or athiests on theological subjects because I find their perspectives useful in understanding society and how it views Christians.

Should I stand firmly on my own concepts and blindly ram my head against the walls of society in an attempt to break down its resistance? Or should I open my eyes and look for a door.

[Queen]

sprky777

Beautiful said!!!


Should I stand firmly on my own concepts and blindly ram my head against the walls of society in an attempt to break down its resistance? Or should I open my eyes and look for a door.

So true to look for the door.

It is my personal opinion of course and there are so many opinions as people. I just think people should have a choice. If you don't want it...that is okay, whatever your reason is....If you want to have more wives or hubbies, that is okay too...although I expect men are more likely to have more wives than females have more husbands.....hubbies are not easy to live with... :grin: :tongue: j/k...

Lots of love and sunshine,
Queen

[sprky777]

Today @ 05:01 AM post located here (http://www.theologyweb.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&postid=251852#post251852)
Queen:
...If you want to have more wives or hubbies, that is okay too...although I expect men are more likely to have more wives than females have more husbands.....hubbies are not easy to live with...

Well from a Christian perspective, both through analogy and example, it is against the rules to have more than one husband. Even from examples in nature it is a rare form of polygamy.

I was discussing polygyny with a friend and he commented ' I have a hard enough time with the wife I have, why would I ever want two?!'

Polygyny is only a single issue.

Christians have to realize that the eyes of the world are upon us. We must live exemplary lives. The slightest fault brings cries of hypocrisy! All of the different denominations, each with a slightly different belief, but almost all have the same basic core. Jesus, the son of God, was crucified to cleanse mankind of his sins. The old testament was filled with sacrificial law and ceremonial law. It was nearly impossible for the OT people to live without some violation requiring sacrifice and forgiveness. Christ came giving us the new testament, not changing the laws but representing a final sacrifice for all.

The new commandment was to love God and love each other as ourselves. How simple. Yet there is so much divisiveness between believers. Christ has given us a way to love God and live our lives. Sometimes we are our own worst enemies.

Commandments that were not made, do not exist and should be put away. Traditions and ceremony that are manmade should not be used to judge who is the better Christian. We have enough to do just giving the opportunity for salvation to those that do not yet believe.