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JardinPrayer
01-22-2014, 12:37 PM
I posted this article (http://www.relevantmagazine.com/culture/tech/5-questions-ask-posting-social-media) on the Perissos Resources Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/Perissos) today. This thread is an invitation to open discussion about the parameters you set for yourself when participating on social media sites. TWeb counts as one of those. Tell me which sites you use regularly, how you make decisions about what you post, what you view, and who you friend. No spam, please.

Sparko
01-22-2014, 12:48 PM
Basically the only site other than tweb that I post to is Facebook (very rarely to google+)
I post only to my friends, and mostly about silly stuff, the weather, politics, and such. Mostly I keep in touch with family and friends I don't see that often.

Catholicity
01-22-2014, 01:00 PM
1) I don't spew hate messages and I don't participate in them
2) I don't gossip (well maybe a little)
3) I try REALLY hard not to say something I'll regret later
4) I don't say something or do something an employer could use against me
5) I don't do anything illegal
6) I only friend people I know or know who they are. If someone wants to be in they life I need to know they aren't dangerous. For this reason, there are some people that have been in and out of my life that I will not let on my social media sites.

KingsGambit
01-22-2014, 01:40 PM
One thing I think the article should have included: "Is it true?"

Sparko
01-22-2014, 01:42 PM
amen to that. I wish people would do a little research before sharing stuff on facebook or elsewhere.

Darth Executor
01-22-2014, 01:57 PM
I'm gonna modify Catholicity's list for myself since it makes a good template

1) I spew hate messages and I participate in them. I highly recommend that everyone find a web site with no manners, decorum or the least bit of humanity in its membership. It's highly cathartic.
2) I don't gossip
3) I TRY really hard not to say something I'll regret later. Emphasis on try.
4) I don't say something or do something an employer could use against me
5) I don't do anything illegal
6) I friended a ton of people for facebook games. I'd sooner friend a stranger than someone I know in real life.

Catholicity
01-23-2014, 10:00 AM
One thing I think the article should have included: "Is it true?"
we need the Amen button

JardinPrayer
01-24-2014, 04:51 AM
I'm gonna modify Catholicity's list for myself since it makes a good template

1) I spew hate messages and I participate in them. I highly recommend that everyone find a web site with no manners, decorum or the least bit of humanity in its membership. It's highly cathartic.
2) I don't gossip
3) I TRY really hard not to say something I'll regret later. Emphasis on try.
4) I don't say something or do something an employer could use against me
5) I don't do anything illegal
6) I friended a ton of people for facebook games. I'd sooner friend a stranger than someone I know in real life.

Curious about how you reconcile 1) with 4).



I have friends on social media from family, business, and faith arenas, some of whom I only know casually. So, I do nothing there I wouldn't do in a public setting. I say nothing there I wouldn't publicly announce. I consider social media somewhat of an accountability partner. If I have to think it through before posting it, I think everyone wins.

Cerebrum123
01-24-2014, 05:12 AM
Curious about how you reconcile 1) with 4).

:idea:
Maybe #1 is part of his job. :wink:

Catholicity
01-24-2014, 06:24 AM
I want to know how he reconciles number one with claiming to be a Christian. The two just don't mesh.

KingsGambit
01-24-2014, 12:13 PM
I want to know how he reconciles number one with claiming to be a Christian. The two just don't mesh.

Certainly a reasonable question.

Darth Executor
01-24-2014, 12:48 PM
Curious about how you reconcile 1) with 4).



I have friends on social media from family, business, and faith arenas, some of whom I only know casually. So, I do nothing there I wouldn't do in a public setting. I say nothing there I wouldn't publicly announce. I consider social media somewhat of an accountability partner. If I have to think it through before posting it, I think everyone wins.

Probably using different definitions of social media. I consider message boards social media too. My real name is limited to light snark.

Manwë Súlimo
01-24-2014, 02:19 PM
My real name is limited to light snark.

Seymour Buttz?

JardinPrayer
01-26-2014, 05:25 PM
Probably using different definitions of social media. I consider message boards social media too. My real name is limited to light snark.

I consider message boards to be social media, as well. But whatever name you're using, you're still representing Christ. So, I defer to Catholicity's question. How does spewing hate glorfy God?

Darth Executor
01-26-2014, 05:51 PM
I consider message boards to be social media, as well. But whatever name you're using, you're still representing Christ. So, I defer to Catholicity's question. How does spewing hate glorfy God?

Since I am determined to let Catholicity sputter her hypocrisy to herself I must decline from answering the question.

Thespia
01-28-2014, 09:56 PM
I think baiting people to try and get them all upset is just as bad as spewing hate. Just sayin'.

KingsGambit
02-16-2014, 12:04 PM
I hang out in the Unbelievable? Facebook group, although I'm considering giving it up as a waste of time. It's the Facebook group for a popular British radio show where theists and atheists debate. One of the things I've been thinking about is how some (not all) of the Christians on there blatantly troll. Sockpuppetry, making outrageous statements once one is getting the worse of an argument, making lewd jokes, and the like. While I recognize that converting the hardened atheists on there is going to be unlikely, I have to wonder about the ethics of some of this. On the other hand, Jesus did make statements that riled people up. Is there a line between trolling and wise discourse? Where is that line?

Catholicity
02-16-2014, 05:35 PM
I hang out in the Unbelievable? Facebook group, although I'm considering giving it up as a waste of time. It's the Facebook group for a popular British radio show where theists and atheists debate. While I recognize that converting the hardened atheists on there is going to be unlikely, I have to wonder about the ethics of some of this. On the other hand, Jesus did make statements that riled people up. Is there a line between trolling and wise discourse? Where is that line?

Ummm....I'm pretty Sure St. James addressed the idea of taming the tongue. So participation in this

how some (not all) of the Christians on there blatantly troll. Sockpuppetry, making outrageous statements once one is getting the worse of an argument, making lewd jokes, and the like.
Is covered in James 1:26 and James 3. What comes out of our mouths should be pure.

Manwë Súlimo
02-16-2014, 07:44 PM
Is there a line between trolling and wise discourse? Where is that line?

Case by case basis, though I can't think of any context where a lot of the things you listed can be permissable.

Sparko
02-17-2014, 06:11 AM
Trolling is making outrageous claims that you don't believe yourself just to get reactions (any reaction) so you can sit back and laugh at all the "rubes" and how you are messing with them.

Apologiaphoenix
02-25-2014, 10:44 AM
I'm a member of the Christian Apologetics Alliance. I also have a group for Christian men who are married, about to get married, or planning on marrying to help us learn how to be godly husbands. Lately, I've been causing some of my own chaos on Peter Boghossian's Facebook page.

I do use my real name in many places because having my own show and my own ministry now, I need to put myself out there.

Irate Canadian
04-14-2014, 01:23 PM
uh...

One Bad Pig
06-17-2014, 07:33 PM
Paging the doctor. . . .

Revvy1337
12-17-2014, 12:39 PM
Lately it seems my posts are offensive to my fellow Christian so I have been not posting much to Facebook... Actually all my church friends on my Facebook list don't even like or comment on my posts unless I find something taboo like a funny dancing woman (too scandalous). That's the only part of social media I hate.

Irate Canadian
04-23-2015, 02:10 PM
I'm gonna modify Catholicity's list for myself since it makes a good template

1) I spew hate messages and I participate in them. I highly recommend that everyone find a web site with no manners, decorum or the least bit of humanity in its membership. It's highly cathartic.
2) I don't gossip
3) I TRY really hard not to say something I'll regret later. Emphasis on try.
4) I don't say something or do something an employer could use against me
5) I don't do anything illegal
6) I friended a ton of people for facebook games. I'd sooner friend a stranger than someone I know in real life.

Curious as to which site number #1 gives you the experience for...

KingsGambit
05-18-2015, 10:58 AM
Today, William Lane Craig's ministry posted on Facebook a video responding to celebrity atheist Stephen Fry critiquing religion and saying that if God existed, he would be a maniac. The first comment was somebody quoting Romans 1:26-27 and saying "God feels the same way, homo!" Given that Craig is viewed by a number of people with religious uncertainty... I thought that was a very poor decision by whoever posted it. Also, predictably, the comments are heading straight toward an argument over whether you should call people "homo" rather than actually discussing the video.

KingsGambit
05-18-2015, 02:12 PM
(Craig's page ended up deleting that comment, by the way.)

NorrinRadd
04-10-2016, 06:19 PM
I'm gonna modify Catholicity's list for myself since it makes a good template

1) I spew hate messages and I participate in them. I highly recommend that everyone find a web site with no manners, decorum or the least bit of humanity in its membership. It's highly cathartic.
2) I don't gossip
3) I TRY really hard not to say something I'll regret later. Emphasis on try.
4) I don't say something or do something an employer could use against me
5) I don't do anything illegal
6) I friended a ton of people for facebook games. I'd sooner friend a stranger than someone I know in real life.

And yours makes a decent template for me. :lol:

For Facebook:

1) I spew (what some would regard as) hate messages, and participate in vigorous discussions thereof. :attn: :whack: :rant: :argue: I have an eclectic group of "Friends" of various religious, social, and political viewpoints. I post things without regard to whether anyone will be offended, partly with the intent of letting everyone get to know aspects of "me" they may never have encountered. I make free use of profanity on my own page. I do not use profanity on pages of people I know are offended by it. I do not use it in discussions in which such people are participating. In discussions where it is already in use, I stop using after such people join the conversation.

2) I don't gossip.

3) I give virtually no thought to whether or not I might eventually "regret" saying something. I never apologize for anything unless I am genuinely convinced I said something "wrong," and convincing me of that is no easy task. However, when it happens, apologies are copious and sincere.

4) I don't care about potential employers for myself. I do make a small effort not to say anything that could adversely affect that aspect of someone else's life.

5) I don't *knowingly* do or say anything illegal. The absurd superabundance of laws makes it impossible to make the claim in any unqualified way.

6) I never play Facebook games, and I have come close to Unfriending repeated sources of Game Requests. :bthump: :rock:

7) I am on Facebook under my real name. On most "discussion sites," I at least try to register as NorrinRadd or Norrin Radd. (Not every Norrin Radd is me; I have noticed a few others.)

General Facebook usage -- I love it for having enabled me to reconnect with people I'd lost touch with decades ago. Besides that, in high school I was fairly shy, not to mention unsaved, and I've interacted with several of my classmates more on Facebook than I ever did in person in the whole time I knew them in school. I'm single, don't get out much, and my cat is a poor conversationalist, so unfortunately most of my socialization is via Facebook.

Elsewhere -- I do or did belong to several "Christian" sites in addition to Tweb, including CARM, Christian Forums, and the FFF. The "policy" that governs my "conduct" is the rule-set of each site. I follow them as I understand them. Usually, it eventually turns out that TPTB find that my understanding does not mesh with theirs, at which time I leave.

MsJack
05-16-2016, 08:31 AM
Be careful what you post. Employers are Googling more and more these days.
Don't post too much of the same thing, whether that be your political views, your budding romance, your cute kid, whatever. People who excessively post anything (especially politics) get unfollowed or unfriended by me, whatever is more appropriate. (I do expect that there will be a lot of posts about life events--weddings, new babies, graduations, deaths, etc. Those are fine.)
Speaking of romance, be minimal about new relationships. I think it's a bad idea to announce that you're "in a relationship" unless it's been going on for a couple of months and seems solid. There are no hard and fast rules here, I just hate it when friends drag me through the drama of their flash-in-the-pan relationships.
It's okay to announce a divorce or serious break-up, but "minimal" is the key. Your friends do not want to hear a 3-page missive on all of the horrible stuff your SO did leading to the divorce. And put some time between announcing a break-up and a new relationship.
Do not create groups and add people to them just to sell a product, whether that be your Jamberry or your Mary Kay or your It Works! or whatever.
Never, ever post about your kid's bodily fluids. No one wants to hear about that.
Don't post anything that can be used legally against you. Don't post about lawsuits except for the barest details of their existence.
I know you're excited about your pregnancy, but the old convention about not announcing it until the second trimester is kind of a good idea. And for crying out loud, don't post the pee stick.

I use Facebook for life updates, family pictures, and (very occasionally) online articles or blog posts that interest me. Twitter is a better medium for regularly sharing what you're reading around the Web.

I share my blog posts on both.

Chrawnus
05-16-2016, 08:38 AM
My Social Media Conduct? That's easy.

1. I have a minimal social media presence

2. I rarely post anything on the sites on which I have an account, which spares me the trouble of figuring out how I should conduct myself.

:shrug:

hansgeorg
12-27-2016, 08:18 AM
I also have a group for Christian men who are married, about to get married, or planning on marrying to help us learn how to be godly husbands.

Should you? Considering the antichristian ineptitude you were guilty of here on this thread:

http://www.theologyweb.com/campus/showthread.php?12770-Does-God-s-Law-%28Both-Testaments%29-forbid-deliberate-infertile-sex-interest-on-money

Apologiaphoenix
12-27-2016, 08:25 AM
Ah yes. Good to know that Pope Hans has shown up to give us his opinion.

Tell you what. How about you go and get married first and then tell the rest of us how we're all doing it wrong?

hansgeorg
12-28-2016, 05:08 AM
Ah yes. Good to know that Pope Hans has shown up to give us his opinion.

Tell you what. How about you go and get married first and then tell the rest of us how we're all doing it wrong?

1) I am not Pope.
2) I was not giving my opinion on what is Christian, but my Christian faith.
3) If I get married, you can start figuring out what some are doing wrong when you count my children ten or twenty years after marriage.
4) Popes have a right and duty (my not being one is no excuse for my not knowing that) to give the full Catholic doctrine of marriage to married people even while not being married themselves.

Your comment reminds me how bishop Clemens August von Galen in and of Münster was treated by two National Socialists after a sermon. He had condemned eugenicism in it. They told him "celibates should not pronounce themselves on procreation" and he answered "I forbid you to insult the Führer" (who was of course unmarried himself).

I am sorry I can't repeat his retort : the people you are following in your views, unfortunately had the opportunity to misuse marriage. At least according to what they are preaching.

Luv1another
06-19-2017, 11:13 PM
I only really use facebook these days...occasionally visit Tweb
I have to say I have learnt a lot in the past years from mistakes...at one time I would post everything and anything, I thought being open and honest was the way to go.
I have learnt better over the years.... I tend to question myself as to whether something would offend others (yes everything is bound to offend someone :rolleyes:) then I question as to how offensive something is and if someone who might be offended by it matters to me. sometimes I may post something that I had no idea would be offensive and if after it's explained I think the person has a valid point I might delete it.
I refrain from posting anything too sexual (as in memes etc)
I still probably post too much when I am angry or hurt at times though these days I might blog it on a site that I have no followers on just to vent.
I dont post any photos that may be embarrassing to my kids or husband.
most of my posts these days are information that has come up in my feed I find useful and think others might too or updates for friends and family like the reno's happening in our house :shrug:

ReformedApologist
05-04-2019, 12:34 PM
1. I don't allow profanity and foul language on my post or timeline. I either delete them or hide the posts.
2. When someone wants to challenge me to a debate, I direct them over here to Theologyweb.
3. When all you post is selfies on your page I will block and remove you. I'm referring to those who post 100's of them a day just to spam the timeline.
4. Trolling with get you banned from my page.
5. Don't advertise your business on my page.