Talk: Cheap or priceless

[Jade]

It seems to be human nature to tear down people when we are upset. But our words can also be powerful in allowing a relationship to blossom.

Many couples admit to having troubles in the area of communication. Some foks aren't open or don't know how to be, some don't listen or are only half listening, or maybe John Gray (http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/006016848X/qid=1043980310/sr=8-4/ref=sr_8_4/103-0808309-7414235?v=glance&s=books&n=507846) is right and we just talk different languages. Whatever the case, what are some creative ideas that worked for you in encouraging constructive communication.

[Eowyn]

Paul David Tripp's book "War of Words" has been very helpful for improving my communication, especially in my marriage (although my husband might dispute this some days.... I'm still growing!).

It gets at the heart of our talk and where it flows from, and drives home how incredibly important our words are.

For example, since every word that comes out of my mouth kills or gives life (Prov. 18: 21) it is better to keep my mouth closed when an angry retort comes to mind. When I do this I avoid the pain and regret that are delivered in conjunction with a stinging word. When I don't keep my mouth shut, I later wish I had!