Marriage: the tie that binds (or gags)

[Jade]

So, what's the secret to a lasting marriage?

With all the marriages ending in divorce these days, how do you keep it together?

[Rubia Warren]

The scriptures dealing with a woman's submission to her husband have made mine do a 180 when I applied them. Yay, God! :yipee: LOL

[Lizard]

For me it is placing your spouses needs and desires above your own.

[Jade]

Anyone else wish to weigh in on this?

Do you find that "sibmitting" and "placing spouses needs and desires above your own" are natural outpourings of love or does it still take a lot of work?

[Sozo]

Jade:
Anyone else wish to weigh in on this?

Do you find that "sibmitting" and "placing spouses needs and desires above your own" are natural outpourings of love or does it still take a lot of work?

I think it is being "one" in purpose.

The husbands purpose is to protect and provide for his family.

The wife's purpose is to support her husband's purpose.

[Rubia Warren]

Sozo:


I think it is being "one" in purpose.

The husbands purpose is to protect and provide for his family.

The wife's purpose is to support her husband's purpose.

This didn't take a lot of work (to answer Jade's question), but it did feel mighty uncomfortable at first! It took reworking a bunch of thinking that rubbed off on me from a society which contains many rebellious women who think that men are incompetent and stupid. I have to say, though, that in return, my husband turned around and responded to my new attitude and new actions in just as positive a way towards me. It just works out like that, at least, in my case.

[Jade]

Sozo:


I think it is being "one" in purpose.

The husbands purpose is to protect and provide for his family.

The wife's purpose is to support her husband's purpose.

La Rubia:


This didn't take a lot of work (to answer Jade's question), but it did feel mighty uncomfortable at first! It took reworking a bunch of thinking that rubbed off on me from a society which contains many rebellious women who think that men are incompetent and stupid. I have to say, though, that in return, my husband turned around and responded to my new attitude and new actions in just as positive a way towards me. It just works out like that, at least, in my case.

So a the right attitude and understanding of purpose goes a long way in making a marriage last.

:hrm:

What then is the difference between being a doormat and being submissive? Or is it one-in-the-same?

[ChrisChillin]

Okay, here's my question for the marrieds...

What was the thought process that led you to know that your would-be-spouse was the person to marry?

[Sozo]

02-20-2003 @ 12:23 PM
Jade:

What then is the difference between being a doormat and being submissive? Or is it one-in-the-same?

If a woman is being used as a doormat, I suggest that she find a new door to be around.

Being submissive is when a wife trusts in her husband (who is trustworthy), to be in a totally dependent relationship with God, and to direct the family accordingly.

There is no disrespect from the husband for the wife who is submissive.

My wife is and always has been submissive, but I adore, cherish, respect, and listen to her.

[Sher]

As a very ::cough:: strong-willed wife, I have trouble with the submissive part (but I'm working on it). However, our "secret" is respect, both when we are together and when we are apart. It appalls me when I hear women knocking their husbands (and v.v.) behind their back (and sometimes to their face). To me, respect and compromise are every bit as important as love.

A strong prayer life doesn't hurt either :thumb:

[themuzicman]

One key for us is the committment that divorce is not an option, and that we need to make every decision as though we are going to be married for the next 50 years.

Then based upon that, we need to work to make the best of things.

Helps if the husband understands how to lead by serving, too.

Michael