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    Quote Originally Posted by Jaxb View Post
    What can she do to bring about change in this situation?
    become heartless and kick him out on the street. But that would not be her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jaxb View Post
    It's a stumbling block if they are attracted to each other.
    I always found it impossible to figure out what's going to be a stumbling block. My wife/girlfriend-at-the-time wanted to live with me in college. We weren't sexually active, and no one thought we were. None of our Christian friends understood why I wasn't ok with it. My parents definitely wouldn't have been ok with it, though hers was. I did have a housemate of the opposite sex after that, but even my more-conservative-than-most parents didn't care about that.

    If you care that much, ask the Christians around you whose opinion you value and use that as a gauge. People on the internet will likely never know the difference.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Cow Poke View Post
    That's a definite possibility.



    Which is why it's good not to present the opportunity.
    That reminds me to not be in a situation that can lead to being falsely accused of sin.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sparko View Post
    become heartless and kick him out on the street. But that would not be her.
    Send him to this place: http://www.bayarearescue.org/

    It offers a place to stay and job training.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Carrikature View Post
    I always found it impossible to figure out what's going to be a stumbling block. My wife/girlfriend-at-the-time wanted to live with me in college. We weren't sexually active, and no one thought we were. None of our Christian friends understood why I wasn't ok with it. My parents definitely wouldn't have been ok with it, though hers was. I did have a housemate of the opposite sex after that, but even my more-conservative-than-most parents didn't care about that.

    If you care that much, ask the Christians around you whose opinion you value and use that as a gauge. People on the internet will likely never know the difference.
    It's always good to seek counsel from other Christians.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jaxb View Post
    That reminds me to not be in a situation that can lead to being falsely accused of sin.
    Often, that's not practical. When I was younger, I would never eat at a restaurant that served alcohol. These days, what restaurant - besides the Golden Arches Supper Club - doesn't? But where there's a choice, it's best to live in such a way that we are not easily accused of wrong.

    1 Tim 2:5 For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cow Poke View Post
    Often, that's not practical. When I was younger, I would never eat at a restaurant that served alcohol. These days, what restaurant - besides the Golden Arches Supper Club - doesn't? But where there's a choice, it's best to live in such a way that we are not easily accused of wrong.
    Consuming alcohol is... not... wrong. But if you're determined to avoid what Pharisiacs call wrong, you can probably eat safely at Perkin's or Bob Evans or Denny's or Golden Corral or any fast food joint or your local diner, off the top of my head. I'd appreciate it if you came up with a better analogy.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jaxb View Post
    That reminds me to not be in a situation that can lead to being falsely accused of sin.
    The problem is less being falsely accused and more a matter of giving a false impression that you would find it okay if it were true. That is the real stumbling block to those looking on.
    Micah 6:8 He has told you, O man, what is good; and what does the LORD require of you but to do justice, and to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jaxb View Post
    Send him to this place: http://www.bayarearescue.org/

    It offers a place to stay and job training.
    we have shelters like that too, but he won't obey their rules and not drink. He likes drinking and can't keep a job because of it. He doesn't even WANT a job because he is a deadbeat dad who owes his exwife a lot of child support and if he gets a job, she gets the money, so he is just a bum. I would kick him out on the street if he were my brother, hoping he would eventually learn, like the prodigal son in the bible. But his sister is too tenderhearted to do that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by One Bad Pig View Post
    Consuming alcohol is... not... wrong.
    Calm yourself, Pigster - I said "when I was younger".

    But if you're determined to avoid what Pharisiacs call wrong, you can probably eat safely at Perkin's or Bob Evans or Denny's or Golden Corral or any fast food joint or your local diner, off the top of my head.
    My current opposition to alcohol is not based on my Christian experience - it's based on my police experience. All the wrecked homes, broken families, vehicle deaths --- I just decided I didn't want to have anything to do with it.

    I'd appreciate it if you came up with a better analogy.
    And I'd appreciate it if you not be such a master picker of nit.

    1 Tim 2:5 For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus.

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