When is Divorce OK?

[Spheniscine]

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I've just been thinking, wouldn't an abusive spouse be considered just as "unfaithful" to their role as an unrepentant adulterer would? After all, marriage is more than about sex; it stands to reason that one can be unfaithful in more than one way.

[casper164]

God does call us to peace, there are many positions to your question.

I guess you will have to decide what you really want to do, it if comes to the spot where you are looking for permission no one other than God can give it to you.

I would ask you to ask yourself a few questions.

1. Do you love your husband?
2. Are you at physical risk?
3. What do you really want in life?
4. Even though it may be tough, are you praying for your husband daily?
5. Have you read the power of a praying wife?

Now let me qualify this for you a little, my wife left me almost 4 weeks ago, so obviously I struggle with some of the same things that you do.

Marriage is a three way relationship, I have to work hard these days at understanding that.
So I take my frustrations to God daily on this. Two people need to focus on God.

Col. 3:1-2

Now that being easily said it's really hard to do that. You know, you could be dealing with some consequences from your decision to marry this man, but another way to look at this is, is God using you and your walk with him to reach this man. It may or may not be possible to reach him, but go read the book of Hosea. I'm not trying to tell you to do something that you don't want to or feel safe to do, the last thing I want is for you get hurt.

Asses the risk and you know, it is ok to separate for a while and to take yourself away from a dangerous situation. If you go to a good church, that is the first place you should be getting your advice. From a professional marriage counselor through your church. If your Church doesn't have a Pastor you can go see then it's time to look for another Church.

Tony Evans also puts out a great book on Godly marriage and divorce. The ISBN# is 0-8024-4386-9.

Talk to a qualified Pastor before you do anything. Above all take your petition to the third person of your marriage covenant, - GOD. Complain to him and ask him what to do, ask every day, get on your knees in prayer and ask. He will also listen to you when you are bitter. Ask him to take that away from you and he will. Remember vengeance is his, he will repay. He tells us to love our enemies and in so doing we will heap burning coals on their heads. Romans 12:20, Mat. 5:44, Proverbs 25:21-23
What if through your actions your unsaved husband comes to know Christ. He should have that option just like you and I had.

God Bless you stay safe.

L

[Living4Him]

I am in a similar situation. Only I am now separated. I feel conviction from the Lord about divorcing my husband. He wants to stay married, but has to show me he will do some growing up first. He is seeing a psychiatrist and is trying.

I thank you Michael for your wisdom. I think of the arch angel Michael when I read your posts. I think you should really listen to Michael. His wisdom is from the Lord. Do not bring judgement upon yourself. Separate from the man. Give him time to miss you and want to change. If he does not, he will divorce you. Then you are freed, either way.

If you are not a christian and do not possess the Holy Spirit, you cannot understand the scriptures, and I pray for your future to include God.

We will hardly go through what Jesus went through when he was here on earth. Look to God for his Peace, joy and Love and he will help you through this. He has helped me. I have peace and joy and so do my four children that I have with my husband.

You can do all things through Christ who Strengthens you.

I will pray for you...God Bless!