I Don't know How To Attract Women

[yo lunch]

I guess then is not that I am unable to attract women, I just don't know what to say. Actually, that is isn't the problem, I have a vague idea of what I should say, my brain just freezes up when I am around a girl I would consider asking out and I am too afraid to say anything. I'm sort of like that guy from The Big Bang Theory.

If you see a girl you like, make eye contact. If she holds the gaze for a few seconds, move in and say 'Hi." If she returns the favor, then ask her name. Then tell her yours. Then,depending on where you are, ask her something that she may know, such as "Do you know where the milk is?

Focus on her. Ask her what interest she has. Then follow up with questions about those things. Soon, she will ask about you and then you can tell her that. Keep good eye contact. If you are shy, look at the spot between her eyes at the top of the nose. It'll look like you are looking directly into her eyes. Careful not to brag and toot your own horn. If she is interested in you, she won't care how lame you appear. Go for the date after you find out what kind of movies, food, etc. that she likes.

Do not fear rejection--there is another one right over there!

Go for it--life is short!

[Manwë Súlimo]

Yo lunch, stop it. It makes me feel so uncomfortable to actually agree with you on something.

[yo lunch]

Yo lunch, stop it. It makes me feel so uncomfortable to actually agree with you on something.

You may not agree with my take on religion but i suspect that you would agree with me on a lot of other topics! After all, one does gain wisdom with age! The trick is to keep it and not develope debilitating mental conditions!

[Challenger Grim]

I guess then is not that I am unable to attract women, I just don't know what to say. Actually, that is isn't the problem, I have a vague idea of what I should say, my brain just freezes up when I am around a girl I would consider asking out and I am too afraid to say anything. I'm sort of like that guy from The Big Bang Theory.

Approach a girl, say "Hi. Who are you?" then let them ramble. You know how to provide follow up questions to keep them going, right?

[themuzicman]

(Don't give up hope.. Even Nick found a girl...)

[fm93]

Yowza! Talk about jumping on the roast wagon!

[Jin-Roh]

No, it really doesn't. Try this for a social experiment: -
Don't wash when you wake up in the morning, don't brush your teeth, don't shave, don't comb your hair. In other words, go caveman. Then see how many people notice. I guarantee you now, that nobody will. Just for one morning mind.

I am fairly certain my girlfriend et al would notice if I did not bathe, comb my hair, or brush my teeth before I attend her graduation ceremony today.

I am also certain that my interview would not have gone well yesterday if I had failed to dress properly, or shave.

People do take notice, but they don't always say so.

I wouldn't. I would buy a £10-£20 suit from Tesco or Matalan. I might spend that much on a suit if I intended to keep it and reserve it for special occasions (wedding, etc.) I can safely say the most I have ever spent on clothes, was a leather jacket that cost £120. I bought it 5 years ago, and I still own it today.

Well good, you know frugality. That's great. Problem is, you do seem to admit the concept that appearance is important.

I have, but the more I try to understand, the more they continue to baffle and confuse me.

What do you think you can do to be more successful in understanding them?

[Rational Gaze]

People do take notice, but they don't always say so.

The majority of people are too busy worrying about their own appearance.

Well good, you know frugality. That's great. Problem is, you do seem to admit the concept that appearance is important.

On a scale of one to ten, appearance does not matter nearly as much as people think. It is important to dress appropriately, however, that is a matter of aesthetics.

What do you think you can do to be more successful in understanding them?

I have absolutely no idea.

[Jin-Roh]

The majority of people are too busy worrying about their own appearance.

I think it is rather sad that you open this thread hoping for assitance, but then resist it when given.

On a scale of one to ten, appearance does not matter nearly as much as people think. It is important to dress appropriately, however, that is a matter of aesthetics.

Appearance is one of the things that affects what people think. It might not be important to you but it is very important to women.

I have absolutely no idea.

Think outside your box. Be influence able. Set aside your ideas and assumptions. I don't think anyone or anything can improve your situation until that happens.

[Rational Gaze]

I think it is rather sad that you open this thread hoping for assitance, but then resist it when given.

I am not resisting, but merely commenting critically. I have no issue when it comes to spending money on my appearance. Obviously, there is some degree where your appearance matters, I just think the degree to which appearance is held is largely absurd. With that said, women care far less about appearance than you would think.

Appearance is one of the things that affects what people think. It might not be important to you but it is very important to women.

Physical appearance plays less of an important role than you would think. I don't mind trying to improve my physical appearance, even though I think it should not be neccessary. I spend around £30 on shampoo, shower gel, deodorant, etc. every few months. I should, perhaps, invest in extending my wardrobe however.

Think outside your box. Be influence able. Set aside your ideas and assumptions. I don't think anyone or anything can improve your situation until that happens.

I do. I am not rejecting your advice, I am merely pointing out that physical appearance is not as important as other factors.

From what I have learned previously, the most important thing is, you need to have a "way with words". I don't have a way with words (I have asperger's) and therefore in need of assistance in that area.

[yo lunch]

From what I have learned previously, the most important thing is, you need to have a "way with words". I don't have a way with words (I have asperger's) and therefore in need of assistance in that area.

If you express that concern to them it will make them want to help you with that. Example: "Forgive me for my not being able to express exactly the way that I feel at the moment but...." You can turn your condition into a positive. Women love to help and feel needed. After all, they are nurturers.

[Manwë Súlimo]

Yo lunch is on a roll.

[Rational Gaze]

Well, I currently live on an Island with a permanent population of 132,000. To top it all, it is full of chavs, and other assorted undesirables. Oh, and most of the population are old people. If I go into town in mid-day, it's nanageddon.

I'm going to Uni soon, so hopefully I will get to meet some new people.

[yo lunch]

Well, I currently live on an Island with a permanent population of 132,000. To top it all, it is full of chavs, and other assorted undesirables. Oh, and most of the population are old people. If I go into town in mid-day, it's nanageddon.

I'm going to Uni soon, so hopefully I will get to meet some new people.

Good luck! Practice what you have learnt!

[Manwë Súlimo]

Stop Making Me Like You!