Thread: Where I am
June 26th 2012, 09:55 AM #16
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Re: Where I am
First, sometimes it's wise to be wary of certain people. There are certain people I have had in my life and I would not invite or allow them back into my life only with the exception I were given an explicit divine revelation directing me to in an awe-inspiring dream or vision. Why? I have every reason NOT to trust them. Some people simply are not safe to have in your life. Just because we're Christians doesn't mean we're to allow just anybody to enter, reenter or otherwise force or "allow themselves" into our lives.
Do people sometimes genuinely change? Yes, sometimes they do. But many times they do not. Extremely dangerous and destructive people tend to persist in their various forms of destructiveness until the day they croak. Cynical observation? Maybe. True? In many, if not most, such cases. I'll be frank, utilizing a personal example: There are relatives of mine who I cannot, do not and will not trust or really (re)allow into my life. Am I just playing it safe? Maybe. Or am I being wise? More wise, I think.
Another off the wall observation which may not pertain to you: A lot of people do not genuinely like dealing with the damage they've caused to others in relationships (boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, so on, so forth). The "sweeping under the rug" approach oftentimes is a form of abuse. The evil hasn't been genuinely owned up to, but it's "on you" to just sort of forget it, forgive, "let it go". In other words, it's just "on you". This may not apply to you; maybe it does.
A word to all of of us: Again, be wise. There are people -- some are professed Christians -- who you ought not allow into your life. Sometimes we need to be proactive in the disallowing business. Sometimes our family members or our relatives, our boyfriends, girlfriends, husbands, wives, grown (or "adult") children, fathers, mothers, "friends", church buddies, &c., are just flat-out toxic. As I type this, though my life is now horrible (somewhat tongue-in-cheek, somewhat not), I can be genuinely thankful that there are certain people from my recent past I have no contact with. For this I am glad and I took the steps to make sure of it. There are sometimes people in our lives that ought not be there and it's okay -- better, right -- to extricate ourselves from entanglements with these unhealthy people.
But that's just me going on and on about general thoughts on some matters.