ARTICLE: How to Fall in Love Every Day

[Jade]

Taken from: Pastor's Family

How to Fall in Love Every Day

The romance in your marriage won't fade
if you invest in small acts of tenderness

by Linda Riley

Keeping romance alive is a challenge when you're juggling never ending duties, exhausting schedules and the emotional demands of both a church family and your own home. Inspiring fresh feelings of romance takes commitment and creativity, but you can do it. Here are several principles that work well for ministry couples.

Separate work life from private life
Call "time out" on church business. Date night or bedtime is not the opportunity to rehash a committee meeting or critique a sermon. Make some days (and nights) off-limits for discussing ministry issues. You make wedding vows as well as ordination vows, so give your relationship the attention it deserves.

Seek and you shall find the time
Maintain a regular schedule with a weekly lunch or breakfast to discuss family "business" and a date night for fun and relaxation. If regular dates seem impossible, take a hard look at your calendar and make the necessary adjustments.

Ministry families have full schedules, but most have the advantage of being flexible. Maybe you can make time for an afternoon rendezvous when the children are at school or at a sitter's home.

Be creative
Come up with new ways of showing interest in your mate. Surprise him with your "good taste": After the toothbrush and mouthwash, rinse your mouth with a weak solution of vanilla or almond extract in water. Or try some of the flavored lip-glosses that teenagers love.

Pamper her with a foot rub. Vacuum her car and leave a new music tape on the driver's seat. Start a piggy bank "savings club" and keep filling it with loose change to splurge on something you know she loves but rarely buys herself.

Send love notes, write a message in lipstick on the mirror or give him a quick call at the office to say all you can think about is seeing him tonight. One missionary I know reads his wife a different love poem each day. She feels adored--for the price of a book of poetry.

Set the stage for continuing romance
Some use special lighting effects--tiny Christmas lights strung across the ceiling, a colorful lava lamp, candles. Some couples like to be "wet and wild" and invest in a tub for two when remodeling their bathroom.

It helps to dedicate the bedroom to rest and intimacy alone. Store bedroom clutter in a hall closet and keep your bedroom free from laundry, bills, sermon notes and the like. Make it an attractive place to recover, relax, sleep and make love.

Our bodies are great gifts to each other, so wrap them beautifully! Ladies, find out what kinds of bedtime clothing your husband prefers. (For all that Victoria's Secret has to offer, some men love flannel gowns.)

Instead of dreaming about some mythical Mr. or Mrs. Right, enjoy the real person in your home. Refocus your attention on him or her alone.

Romance will not fade, and the flame of your marriage will not grow dim if you regularly invest small acts of tenderness and consideration. Making room for romance will keep the one you love the true love of your life.


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Taken from Pastor's Family magazine, Feb/Mar 1997. Linda Riley is a pastor's wife and founder and director of Called Together Ministries, a former organization for women in ministry. She and her husband, Jay, serve Living Word Fellowship in Southern California.

[Xmansmommy]

Excellent post Jade! Perhaps someday I'll be able to use this fantastic advice. :brow:

[Ryokan]

Another way to keep luv from leaving your marriage is to not get married.:brow:

[Xmansmommy]

Ryokan :brow: