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Why I Don't Use Porn

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  • Why I Don't Use Porn

    What reason is there to avoid it?

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    How can we best honor the women of the world? Let's plunge into the Deeper Waters and find out.

    As I say this, I do realize that porn is not just a man's problem. It is something that more and more women are engaging in as well. Nothing is meant to discount their struggle, but I can only write from my own position as a man.

    Many times, it's often assumed that if you're a man, you're watching porn. It could be an understandable assumption, but it's also a false one. Being a man does not necessitate that you engage in pornography. Perhaps it could mean sexual sin is more of a struggle for you, but it is something that can be overcome.

    Before my marriage, my Dad had been working somewhere where his fellow co-workers were sadly quite raunchy. He spoke about my upcoming wedding and somehow in the midst of the conversation it came out that he was proud of his son and his daughter who were saving sex for marriage. He was immediately told his kids were lying to him. They were doing that on the side and just not telling him about it.

    No hesitation there. His kids weren't lying.

    We weren't.

    My eyes are reserved for Allie alone and she is the only woman I share that sexual intimacy with. Now as a guy, I will definitely say that that intimacy is awesome and getting to see Allie's body is getting to see the most beautiful sight I have ever seen. It's amazing what a guy can be motivated to do just by a little flirtation from his wife.*

    So if that's something I enjoy so much, wouldn't it make sense to see porn? No. Not at all. Here are some reasons why.

    I don't use porn because Allie is more than enough woman for me. I don't need any other woman to satisfy my desires. I don't want any other woman to do so. Viewing porn would be wrong because it would be telling Allie that she is insufficient as a woman.

    I don't use porn because a woman is not just a body. She is a person as well and when I view her as just a body, I do not love her as a whole. It is not loving to the women of the world to treat them as just bodies and I certainly don't do that with my own wife.

    I don't use porn because it's really fake. Why would I change a woman who is really interested in me for the chance to see a woman who doesn't know me and doesn't care about me? My wife's chasing after me is more than enough for me.

    I don't use porn because it cheapens sex. Sex is indeed the union of two bodies in a holy embrace, but those are the bodies of persons and the persons are affirming a powerful commitment of love with that act. I choose to not use my body to lie so with my body, I honor my Allie.

    I don't use porn because the fake can't match the reality. There's nothing like really touching one's own wife and experiencing her touch. Nothing in media can compare with the real deal. The passion that can exist in the bedroom is a sacred passion.

    I don't use porn because I want my eyes filled with only Allie. Why would I want to delight in another man's wife or in a woman I can never have? Is the one that God has given me just not enough for me? Of course, she is.

    I don't use porn because I don't want to ever give Allie any hint that she's insufficient for me. She is not in competition with other women. When I proposed to her, I told her she won the grand prize in my eyes and I wanted to be with only her forever and when I married her, I made that a public statement.

    I don't use porn because sex is something beautiful. When I treat it as something common and outside of the sacred bounds of marriage, I cheapen it. Sex is so holy that there's a whole book of Scripture about it. I have no wish to diminish it.

    I don't use porn because it teaches me that women just exist for my sexual pleasure. I am to seek to give to my wife. While it is true she is to give to me and a priority of hers should be my desires, it is a two-way street.

    I don't use porn because it would dishonor my God. God made sex to be treasured and all these human beings are made in His image and to be treasured, whether they are married or not and whether they plan to marry or not. No person is to be treated as an object.

    I don't use porn because I want to be my intimacy in this life to come because Allie is affirming me as her man. I don't want to go to other women I don't know for just something that makes me feel like a man. I would rather go to my wife and be the man that she loves.

    I don't use porn because sex isn't just a hobby. It's not like a sport that two people can play together and it doesn't really matter who the participants are. It's an exclusive act I share with only one person who I love in an exclusive way and while what we do together is certainly a lot of fun, it's also a building of that great love that we have together.

    I don't use porn because as far as I'm concerned, no one on Earth can compare with my wife's beauty. Allie is the only beauty that drives me wild and pushes me to want to be a better man. She is the woman whose pictures I look at with longing romantic love and desire in my office (I have pictures of other family members in here), she is the picture on the desktop on my computer, and she is the picture that I see when I turn on my phone. My wife makes my world a much better place.

    Ultimately, I don't use porn because I love Allie and I love God. I seek to do nothing to dishonor either of them. The love of both in my life is a gift of grace and I choose to live holy in gratitude of that great gift.

    And yes, I do love both. If you read this Princess, that means you specifically. Your husband loves you very much and you need no fear of competition.

    In Christ,
    Nick Peters

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    And mostly, your wife would kill you - and your friends would help hide the body.
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      I fight against it because I don't like being treated as a chemical factory. It messes with your brain. It takes insecurities and adds secrecy to hide from those who care about you. It takes things that should be left alone and desecrates them. It has you on edge that women are going to think your some kind of monster. The snake and guilt feel terrible. It makes you feel alone because the idea of admitting what tempts you puts in range of those who might laugh and scorn you. It's awful.
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