Announcement

Collapse

Deeper Waters Forum Guidelines

Notice – The ministries featured in this section of TheologyWeb are guests of this site and in some cases not bargaining for the rough and tumble world of debate forums, though sometimes they are. Additionally, this area is frequented and highlighted for guests who also very often are not acclimated to debate fora. As such, the rules of conduct here will be more strict than in the general forum. This will be something within the discretion of the Moderators and the Ministry Representative, but we simply ask that you conduct yourselves in a manner considerate of the fact that these ministries are our invited guests. You can always feel free to start a related thread in general forum without such extra restrictions. Thank you.

Deeper Waters is founded on the belief that the Christian community has long been in the shallow end of Christianity while there are treasures of the deep waiting to be discovered. Too many in the shallow end are not prepared when they go out beyond those waters and are quickly devoured by sharks. We wish to aid Christians to equip them to navigate the deeper waters of the ocean of truth and come up with treasure in the end.

We also wish to give special aid to those often neglected, that is, the disabled community. This is especially so since our founders are both on the autism spectrum and have a special desire to reach those on that spectrum. While they are a special emphasis, we seek to help others with any disability realize that God can use them and that they are as the Psalmist says, fearfully and wonderfully made.

General TheologyWeb forum rules: here.
See more
See less

Celebrating Valentine's Day

Collapse
X
 
  • Filter
  • Time
  • Show
Clear All
new posts

  • Celebrating Valentine's Day

    Happy Valentine's Day!

    The link can be found here.

    ----

    I used to hate Valentine's Day. Back then, I was one who called it Singles' Awareness Day. It was a depressing time because I always wondered if I would ever find someone who would love me and who I would love. Really, the prospects of that happening did not seem good.

    That really changed in August of 2009. I found out about this girl named Allie who lived in Atlanta. She had Aspergers like I do and she was going through a hard time and wanted a friend. I said I could be that friend and started communicating with her. Before long, it was more than communication and we were a hot item. Everyone knew exactly where we were heading and this only after a couple of months. I proposed to her in December and we were married in July, but I did get to spend Valentine's Day with her.

    Since then, every Valentine's Day has been special. I always make sure to celebrate the day by doing something really special for her. You see, when you go through life and you doubt that you will ever find that love, you want to celebrate it when it comes along. You never want to take it for granted.

    Something theological about this is that love is now something we do celebrate. When you read Plato, the whole dialogue of the Symposium is all about a celebration of love because that really wasn't as much celebrated as it is today. Romantic love was often the exception and not the norm. Many times, a wife would often be just the woman that the man chose to have his main heirs with.

    Today, romantic love is the norm. We can't picture any other cause for marriage than love. At the same time, we often don't think about what love is. What does it mean to love someone?*

    Many times, we think that love means we have warm feelings for someone. That can be good when it comes, but that's not what love is. Love is not about what you feel so much as what you do. The best definition of love I know is seeking the good of the other for the sake of the other.

    This means love is in the giving. It's in the giving of oneself for what is genuinely good for the other. It might not even be what the person wants. A loving thing to do to a recovering alcoholic seeking to overcome is to NOT give him the alcohol he desires. Love can be painful in that sense, but love is there because it is the person seeking the good. There's always the possibility that one is wrong in the action they think loving, but they are still at least trying to be loving.

    As a husband, I am called to give of myself to my wife regularly and sacrifice for her, but with love, it is not often a sacrifice. It is a joy. My greatest joy many times is in knowing I am making Allie happy and knowing she can rely on me and trust in me. If you hear me talking to other men about marriage, what you will often hear is that I wish I could do more.

    Today, I will be celebrating the love I have for my Princess. If you are married, I encourage you to please celebrate it today, but remember also that Valentine's Day is not meant to be a once a year event. Celebrate the love you have for your spouse every day. If you are single, you can still celebrate love you have in your life. You can have the love of friends, the love of family, and of course, the love of God. If you want to find romantic love, be assured it can be found. I never thought it would happen for me and now we're working on year eight of our marriage.

    Happy Valentine's Day to you also Princess. I love you dearly.

    In Christ,
    Nick Peters

  • #2
    Bah humbug.

    Comment

    Related Threads

    Collapse

    Topics Statistics Last Post
    Started by Apologiaphoenix, 03-15-2024, 10:19 PM
    14 responses
    75 views
    1 like
    Last Post rogue06
    by rogue06
     
    Started by Apologiaphoenix, 03-13-2024, 10:13 PM
    6 responses
    61 views
    0 likes
    Last Post Apologiaphoenix  
    Started by Apologiaphoenix, 03-12-2024, 09:36 PM
    1 response
    23 views
    0 likes
    Last Post rogue06
    by rogue06
     
    Started by Apologiaphoenix, 03-11-2024, 10:19 PM
    0 responses
    22 views
    2 likes
    Last Post Apologiaphoenix  
    Started by Apologiaphoenix, 03-08-2024, 11:59 AM
    7 responses
    57 views
    0 likes
    Last Post whag
    by whag
     
    Working...
    X