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    Modesty and Respect

    Should we be ashamed of our bodies?

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    How should victims of #MeToo live? Let's plunge into the Deeper Waters and find out.

    I had my concerns when the #MeToo movement started, but I appreciate many of the women who were in it. Real sexual abuse and sexual harassment happens. The problem is that the terms are also often too vague. There are girls who can have a guy ask them out at work and consider that sexual harassment. If a man tells a woman she is beautiful in some way, that can be called sexual harassment.*

    Then there are evils out there like Dr. Larry Nassar. Nassar is without a doubt a sick and twisted individual who has brought much destruction to the lives of the women that he worked with. Nassar used them for his own pleasures and their sexual peace has been sacrificed at the altar of his pleasures.

    Sometimes, the response can go too far. An article in*The Mighty recently spoke about Aly Raisman and her nude photos for Sports Illustrated. Normally, I would link, but I know that there are guys who will struggle and a link right there could be a problem. The link doesn't show any frontal nudity, but it is clear that Raisman is nude in it. The writer of the piece says her appearing nude does not negate #MeToo.

    The article quotes something said apparently on Instagram by Raisman.

    "Women do not have to be modest to be respected-- Live for you! Everyone should feel comfortable expressing themselves however makes them happy. Women can be intelligent, fierce, sexy, powerful, strong, advocate for change while wearing what makes them feel best. The time where women are taught to be ashamed of their bodies is OVER. The female body is beautiful and we should all be proud of who we are, inside and out."

    Much of this is fine, but some of it makes no sense. Everyone should feel comfortable expressing themselves however makes them happy? The way Nassar expressed himself was by abusing several young women. Do we have a problem with that? We sure do. The implication here is that you should do what makes you happy, and if sex makes you happy, you should express yourself sexually however you want.

    What is ignored is if there is any real purpose to sex? There are a number of purposes, but many people today only look at one purpose. Sex is there only for this one purpose and that's it.

    One such purpose of sex is the continuation of the species. Some people can't do this because of infertility or medical reasons of some sort or financial reasons or because age has made it impossible to conceive. Another reason also is the unity of a husband and wife. Sexuality is the greatest expression of love between a husband and a wife. It is a way of saying that the two give themselves entirely to each other as they are. It's hard to do that with your bodies if you haven't really done it in reality yet with a marriage commitment, which is a reason why living together before marriage actually makes divorce more likely.*

    Of course, pleasure is on the list. Husbands and wives also do this because it's a lot of fun. The problem is too many today treat sexuality like just a hobby. In essence, it's treated as something common. You watch TV with your friends. You go play a sport with your friends. You have sex with some friends. Why not? It's just another thing you do.

    But what if it isn't just another thing you do? What if it involves more than just an activity, but rather the bonding of persons? In sex,*after all, oxytocin is released that bonds the man and woman together. This cannot be altered. Of course, the more you deny what comes with that bond, the more you will be going against your very own body and making it harder to bond. Sex really does change things.

    Raisman also says a woman should not be modest to be respected. Okay, but that leaves us with the question of why should a woman be modest? When I go out in public, I see several women. They're all wearing clothes. Why is that? Also, the men are wearing clothes as well. Why is that?

    Are we wearing clothes because we are ashamed of our bodies? Is the only way to show love for your body and delight in your body to walk around naked all the time? If so, then we live in a society where the only people who love their bodies are the ones in nudist camps.*

    Or do we wear clothes for another reason? (and I don't just mean work requirements or keeping warm) Do we wear clothes not because our bodies are something shameful, but do we wear them because they are something sacred? We don't want to expose what is sacred to everyone else. That treats the sacred as if it was just common. We save them for the people who are really special.

    The only woman who sees my body totally is my wife. The only man who sees my wife's body totally is me. By that action alone, we each know that we are something different to each other. We are the only ones that share this unique bond. Sex takes it even further. It's not that Allie's body is a place of shame. In reality, it's a place of honor, but in her life, only one person has the honor necessary to totally receive the honor she has. Likewise, there is only one person out there I consider worthy of totally giving the gift of myself to.

    What happens for women who bear it all sexually? Everyone gets that, and that includes multitudes who don't deserve that. That includes the men sitting in their basements watching porn and not going out and meeting a real woman because they just need a fake one. When they do meet real women, these real women aren't enough for them because they've seen the fake ones only and expect real women to be like fake photoshopped women. There's a reason there are men in their 20's taking Viagra now.*

    A woman does not dress modestly because she is ashamed of how she looks. She does it because she honors how she looks. She wants everyone to know that she is not to be treated as common. Her body is something sacred and is not to be put out on display. Getting to see her body and all her beauty and glory is not a right that a man has. It is a privilege. A woman determines who is worthy of that privilege. If she wants to say everyone in the world is, then she has lowered herself. Everyone in the world includes some despicable people.*

    The response article tells us that clothing is just clothing and our bodies are just bodies and your body, your choice. Yes. You do choose what you do with your body, but notice how the writer says our bodies are "just bodies." It's like saying, "No big deal. This is just the human body being shared." It is a big deal. Every human being is a big deal. If you believe every woman should be honored, then you should also not believe that they are to be treated as common.*

    That's the great danger also with young women especially doing the whole sexting thing now. By doing that, you are letting a guy know that if he wants to see your body, all he has to do is have a Y chromosome. Nothing extraordinary is required. A guy is far less likely to pursue you and if he does, well he only wants to hit it and quit it. He'll move on to the next fix after that.*

    Now some do say that it is always the fault of the perpetrator in sexual abuse. It is, but at the same time, if someone overeats on a diet, it is their fault, but it's not wise for friends and family to come by and dangle unhealthy foods that the person likes right in their face. Women and men should seek to dress in a way that honors those around them. Even if those other people are not worthy of being honored, like Nassar, you deserve to be honored around them.

    Does this go against #MeToo some? I think it does. So many women have rightfully complained about being treated as objects, but then act in a way that makes it more likely that they will be treated that way. Again, it's never right to do that and that can happen sadly even in marriage. (Sorry guys, but your wife is there for more than just you having someone to have sex with and you need to treat her with honor as a person in the image of God and sacrifice for her.)*

    Women should feel empowered and confident as they are and not be ashamed of their bodies, but that doesn't mean you treat them like they're common. Go with the Christian idea of treating them like sacred vessels. Save them for a man who truly deserves that honor, say, I don't know, by making a public lifetime commitment to you till death do you part?

    In Christ,
    Nick Peters

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    There are many cases where immodest dress is a result of the "natural" sense of modesty has been erased, or partly so, by perverted social norms. That is the only reason I can accept that a woman who does not dress modestly deserves respect beyond the respect we owe to every individual.
    Micah 6:8 He has told you, O man, what is good; and what does the LORD require of you but to do justice, and to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God?

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