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  • Originally posted by Mountain Man View Post
    Perhaps we should start calling it "toxic liberalism".
    I have no doubt that there is such a thing - as well as toxic conservativsm - toxic Christianity - and toxic atheism - not to mention toxic femininity. Anyone or any group can turn a good thing to a bad one. That is pretty much the definition of "toxic."
    The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy...returning violence for violence multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars. Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that. Martin Luther King

    I would unite with anybody to do right and with nobody to do wrong. Frederick Douglas

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    • Originally posted by carpedm9587 View Post
      I have no doubt that there is such a thing - as well as toxic conservativsm - toxic Christianity - and toxic atheism - not to mention toxic femininity. Anyone or any group can turn a good thing to a bad one. That is pretty much the definition of "toxic."
      You really don't get it, do you? A liberal can be a jerk. A Christian can be a jerk. A conservative, an atheist, and a feminist can be jerk. Literally anybody can be a jerk. That's not "toxic [whatever]", that's just someone being a jerk! But calling it "toxic [whatever]" implies that the bad behavior in question is exclusive or at least inherent to that group. I have no doubt that you would object very strongly if that kind of thinking were applied to your boys, and you would be right to object. I'll leave it as exercise in introspection for you to figure out why.
      Some may call me foolish, and some may call me odd
      But I'd rather be a fool in the eyes of man
      Than a fool in the eyes of God


      From "Fools Gold" by Petra

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      • Originally posted by Sparko View Post
        Because I am a gentleman who respects women.
        Why would you not respect all people equally, why just women?

        either that or I want to make sure it is safe first before I step off.
        That's more like it.

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        • Originally posted by Mountain Man View Post
          You really don't get it, do you? A liberal can be a jerk. A Christian can be a jerk. A conservative, an atheist, and a feminist can be jerk. Literally anybody can be a jerk. That's not "toxic [whatever]", that's just someone being a jerk! But calling it "toxic [whatever]" implies that the bad behavior in question is exclusive or at least inherent to that group.
          So "toxic" is a magic adjective possessing properties no other adjective has.

          Saying "toxic masculinity" implies all masculinity is toxic, and only masculinity is toxic.
          Likewise, saying "toxic femininity" implies all femininity is toxic, and only femininity is toxic.
          Mentioning "toxic masculinity" and "toxic femininity" is a contradiction.

          Referring to "toxic posting" implies all posts are toxic, including MM's, but nothing else (including both masculinity and femininity) is toxic.

          Alternatively, MM is a blithering idiot.
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          MM: First of all, the Bible is a fixed document.
          MM on covid-19: We're talking about an illness with a better than 99.9% rate of survival.

          seer: I believe that so called 'compassion' [for starving Palestinian kids] maybe a cover for anti Semitism, ...

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          • Originally posted by Tassman View Post
            Why would you not respect all people equally, why just women?
            Because they smell nicer.
            The first to state his case seems right until another comes and cross-examines him.

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            • Originally posted by Mountain Man View Post
              You really don't get it, do you?
              There is a difference between "getting it" and "agreeing with it."

              Originally posted by Mountain Man View Post
              A liberal can be a jerk.
              Agreed.

              Originally posted by Mountain Man View Post
              A Christian can be a jerk.
              Agreed.

              Originally posted by Mountain Man View Post
              A conservative, an atheist, and a feminist can be jerk.
              Agreed.

              Originally posted by Mountain Man View Post
              Literally anybody can be a jerk.
              Agreed.

              Originally posted by Mountain Man View Post
              That's not "toxic [whatever]", that's just someone being a jerk!
              It depends

              Originally posted by Mountain Man View Post
              But calling it "toxic [whatever]" implies that the bad behavior in question is exclusive or at least inherent to that group.
              In this case - it is. It's kinda hard for a women to engage in "toxic masculinity."

              Originally posted by Mountain Man View Post
              I have no doubt that you would object very strongly if that kind of thinking were applied to your boys, and you would be right to object.
              You are assuming/guessing with no basis. While it has never happened, I would like to think that I would affirm it if my boys were actually engaging in it, and deny it if they weren't.

              Originally posted by Mountain Man View Post
              I'll leave it as exercise in introspection for you to figure out why.
              I don't need to.

              I have made the case several times, MM. You guys have not responded to it. A bully is a kind of "jerk." No one says, "get rid of the word "bully" because it just means "jerk." Bullying is a specific kind of jerk and the approach to bullying focuses specifically on bullying behavior. Lying is a specific kind of jerk. Same deal.

              In the end, I think you folks hate "toxic masculinity" because it narrows down to a particular type of person: a man. You are afraid all men can be (and sometimes inappropriately are) painted by that brush. Yet many people paint "liar" with too broad a brush, and no one is suggesting eliminating the word "liar." And I have listened to many objections to "radical feminism" with not a single person objecting to it as "narrowing down to one group" or "painting with too broad a brush." Yet, interestingly, a "radical feminist" is just a jerk, right? She's just a bully, correct? We should ditch the language "radical feminism," which is pretty close to the female equivalent of "toxic male." Yet that proposal is not made by anyone here.

              Now I wonder why that might be...?
              Last edited by carpedm9587; 02-01-2019, 06:56 AM.
              The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy...returning violence for violence multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars. Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that. Martin Luther King

              I would unite with anybody to do right and with nobody to do wrong. Frederick Douglas

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              • Originally posted by carpedm9587 View Post

                As best I can tell, you prefer a world where everyone aspires to be an alpha - and if they don't they're a wimp and need to "buck up."
                Not necessarily, last night my lady friend brought me to a high end, invitation only art show where she was presenting one of her works. It was filled with sensitive artist types, and I had a few interesting conversations, and managed not to embarrass Jan (which has not always been the case). So there is a place for such men. Yet you need alpha males, even if they go over the edge at times or are not politically correct. After all who will protect the betas and women?

                This link contains salty language, but it mirrors almost exactly (it is actually to tame) my experience on Parris Island. And at just 18 years old the experience is formative. But this is how warriors and defenders are made. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tRO2bkF3Iz8
                Atheism is the cult of death, the death of hope. The universe is doomed, you are doomed, the only thing that remains is to await your execution...

                https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jbnueb2OI4o&t=3s

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                • Originally posted by carpedm9587 View Post
                  In the end, I think you folks hate "toxic masculinity" because it narrows down to a particular type of person: a man. You are afraid all men can be (and sometimes are) painted by that brush....
                  Carpe - I wish you guys would stop telling me what I think!!!!!
                  Carpe - Here's exactly what you guys think!!!!

                  (yeah, I know, you didn't say "here's exactly...." - you just proceeded to ascribe our inner thoughts to us.)
                  The first to state his case seems right until another comes and cross-examines him.

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                  • Originally posted by seer View Post
                    ...and managed not to embarrass Jan...
                    That's always such a warm feeling, isn't it?
                    The first to state his case seems right until another comes and cross-examines him.

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                    • Originally posted by seer View Post
                      Not necessarily, last night my lady friend brought me to a high end, invitation only art show where she was presenting one of her works. It was filled with sensitive artist types, and I had a few interesting conversations, and managed not to embarrass Jan (which has not always been the case). So there is a place for such men. Yet you need alpha males, even if they go over the edge at times or are not politically correct. After all who will protect the betas and women?
                      Yes - you need alpha males. What is NOT necessary is toxic masculinity. The two are not equivalent. I am not even sure there is data to show that the incidence of toxic masculinity is higher in alpha males than beta males. But it is definitely present.

                      Originally posted by seer View Post
                      This link contains salty language, but it mirrors almost exactly (it is actually to tame) my experience on Parris Island. And at just 18 years old the experience is formative. But this is how warriors and defenders are made. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tRO2bkF3Iz8
                      I have no idea how any of this relates to "toxic masculinity," which was the subject of this thread.
                      The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy...returning violence for violence multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars. Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that. Martin Luther King

                      I would unite with anybody to do right and with nobody to do wrong. Frederick Douglas

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                      • Originally posted by Cow Poke View Post
                        Carpe - I wish you guys would stop telling me what I think!!!!!
                        Carpe - Here's exactly what you guys think!!!!

                        (yeah, I know, you didn't say "here's exactly...." - you just proceeded to ascribe our inner thoughts to us.)
                        I think you missed the "I think" part.
                        The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy...returning violence for violence multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars. Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that. Martin Luther King

                        I would unite with anybody to do right and with nobody to do wrong. Frederick Douglas

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                        • Originally posted by carpedm9587 View Post
                          I think you missed the "I think" part.
                          No, I covered that in the parenthetical part. Perhaps I should have added a whole bunch of verbosity.
                          The first to state his case seems right until another comes and cross-examines him.

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                          • Originally posted by Cow Poke View Post
                            No, I covered that in the parenthetical part. Perhaps I should have added a whole bunch of verbosity.
                            I acknowledge that the statement would have sounded less like an accusation if it had been written like this:

                            "Is it at all possible that you folks hate "toxic masculinity" because it narrows down to a particular type of person: a man? That you are afraid all men can be (and sometimes are) painted by that brush?"

                            Note that the second sentence is something multiple people have explicitly said - so I am not reading their minds.
                            The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy...returning violence for violence multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars. Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that. Martin Luther King

                            I would unite with anybody to do right and with nobody to do wrong. Frederick Douglas

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                            • Originally posted by carpedm9587 View Post
                              I acknowledge that the statement would have sounded less like an accusation if it had been written like this:

                              "Is it at all possible that you folks hate "toxic masculinity" because it narrows down to a particular type of person: a man? That you are afraid all men can be (and sometimes are) painted by that brush?"

                              Note that the second sentence is something multiple people have explicitly said - so I am not reading their minds.
                              Sheeeeesh!!!!!!

                              OK.... let's cut to the quick.

                              You're right, Carpe. You're ALWAYS right. Why do we even bother trying to say otherwise?
                              The first to state his case seems right until another comes and cross-examines him.

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                              • From TeachingTolerance.org

                                The first to state his case seems right until another comes and cross-examines him.

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