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    Model Immigrants - My Nigerians

    Note - plesae be CIVIL.... if this turns into an ugly debate, I'll ask to have it moved to a non-debate area. (let's please set aside the illegal alien issue for a time)



    Many of us are quite pleased to have people immigrate to this country the legal way.

    I have a number of Nigerian families in my Church who did just that. One of them had her 60th birthday party last Saturday, and in their culture, it's a BIG DEAL. They rented a hall, hired a band, catered a meal, and got all decked out in their cultural finest. (Apparently, they spread the word what the special dress is for the evening, and everybody dresses the same to indicate "we are family")

    One thing puzzled me a little - as those of us who are NOT Nigerian entered, we were ushered to a bank of tables separate from everybody else. I joked to the other non-blacks at my table that "We're being segregated".

    As the evening progressed, there came a time when the Master of Ceremonies - yes, there was one of those - took some time to bow toward us as he explained how very grateful they were to be citizens of the United States, and for our "bothers and sisters who have welcomed us and made us feel at home". It was quite touching, because a number of them gave testimony to the fact that they left their country with one suitcase, one carry-on, and a seat on an airplane in search of the American Dream. Nearly the entire service was in English, and they explained, "we do this because we are AMERICANS". They never said anything about "African-American" - they were proud to be citizens of our great land. The only time they did something NOT in English was when a pastor was called upon to pray a blessing on "the celebrant". He very humbly turned toward us and asked, "would you allow me to pray for the celebrant in my native tongue?" It was beautiful, and kind of a "prayer and response" type prayer throughout.

    In fact, all but a few of them were citizens, and those who were not were studying hard for their citizenship test. As I met some of them for the first time, they were doctors and lawyers and nurses and architects and professional people, and appeared to be people of means. They explained, "we come to America for the American Dream for us - and every day we want to make America better".

    To me, they epitomize the ideal immigrant --- very proud of their culture, and not forgetting it in the least, but cognizant of the fact that they have taken on a new life in a new land. These are, without exception, some of the most polite and gracious people I have ever encountered. Their children are amazingly well behaved and respectful of elders.

    To me, this is how I understand many people "back in the day" immigrated to our country - to pursue the America Dream and 'be Americans', not abandoning their own culture, but embracing ours.

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    One of my mom's proudest days was when she became a US Citizen.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sparko View Post
    One of my mom's proudest days was when she became a US Citizen.

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    On several occasions, while touring State Capitals, Mrs CP and I have stumbled upon Naturalization Ceremonies in progress. We always stay for the whole thing, and congratulate the new Citizens.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sparko View Post
    One of my mom's proudest days was when she became a US Citizen.

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    Does (did) she retain her (German?) culture? I think that's one of the things that impresses me about the Nigerians. Occasionally, Sam (the "father" or leader of this particular group) will come to Church fully decked out in his Nigerian outfit. In fact, maybe having to do with holidays or special events "back home", all of the Nigerians will show up in their native dress.

    But they are always ready to proclaim their joy at being Americans. Also, as I thought about it, most of the Nigerians I know are in the medical field, usually starting out as nurse's aids in nursing homes or something - a menial position - and working their way up to nurse or doctor or something else. The lady who was celebrating her 60th birthday has been a nurse for many years, and trains other nurses.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Cow Poke View Post
    Does (did) she retain her (German?) culture? I think that's one of the things that impresses me about the Nigerians. Occasionally, Sam (the "father" or leader of this particular group) will come to Church fully decked out in his Nigerian outfit. In fact, maybe having to do with holidays or special events "back home", all of the Nigerians will show up in their native dress.

    But they are always ready to proclaim their joy at being Americans. Also, as I thought about it, most of the Nigerians I know are in the medical field, usually starting out as nurse's aids in nursing homes or something - a menial position - and working their way up to nurse or doctor or something else. The lady who was celebrating her 60th birthday has been a nurse for many years, and trains other nurses.
    Sure, she would always cook German food for us, and we would travel back to Germany often to visit family. My mom has passed now, but my brother and me still go back to visit our half-sister in Germany and her family.

    Other than food, though, German culture is not that different than ours. I mean she didn't dress up in traditional Bavarian garb or anything. She did have a few German friends and they would chatter away in German all the time.

    My dad was in the Army (that's where he met my mom) so I and my brothers were born in Germany and spent several years over there growing up during his German tours.

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    It is funny, my Grandmother (immigrated in 1899) wouldn't even allow Italian spoken in the house - we were American - period. Which was sad, I wished I learned Italian, well I did lean to swear in Italian from the streets.
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    Quote Originally Posted by seer View Post
    It is funny, my Grandmother (immigrated in 1899) wouldn't even allow Italian spoken in the house - we were American - period. Which was sad, I wished I learned Italian, well I did lean to swear in Italian from the streets.
    Yeah, it can go too far, I think. I love the idea of "keeping my culture" but "becoming American". Doesn't have to be an either/or, but I had some German neighbors like that once. My best friend regrets that he never learned German, because it wasn't allowed to be spoken in the house --- same thing "We're AMERICANS!"
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sparko View Post
    Sure, she would always cook German food for us, and we would travel back to Germany often to visit family. My mom has passed now, but my brother and me still go back to visit our half-sister in Germany and her family.

    Other than food, though, German culture is not that different than ours. I mean she didn't dress up in traditional Bavarian garb or anything. She did have a few German friends and they would chatter away in German all the time.

    My dad was in the Army (that's where he met my mom) so I and my brothers were born in Germany and spent several years over there growing up during his German tours.
    Yeah, you had shared a lot of that, and YES on the German food! My neighbors (mentioned in prior post) used to LOVE to put on the "Hey, come over and eat some authentic GERMAN food!"
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    Quote Originally Posted by Cow Poke View Post
    Yeah, it can go too far, I think. I love the idea of "keeping my culture" but "becoming American". Doesn't have to be an either/or, but I had some German neighbors like that once. My best friend regrets that he never learned German, because it wasn't allowed to be spoken in the house --- same thing "We're AMERICANS!"
    Thankfully my grandmother remembered all the recipes from the old country...
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