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    I am giving up...

    I am 25 years old, I have never properly worked in my life, I live off my mom's, I only study (online graduation), but I have absolutely no interest in my area of study either (IT)...

    Do you guys have any advice? What should I do? I am becoming rather tired of my own situation...

    Thanks in advance.

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    Find any job to establish habit of going to work and earning your own money. Think about what does interest you and look for opportunities in that direction. Think about what a potential employer is looking for and train yourself for that role.

    Apprenticeships?

    College courses often do not train people for work. In most cases, work skills are learned by working.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Seeker View Post
    I am 25 years old, I have never properly worked in my life, I live off my mom's, I only study (online graduation), but I have absolutely no interest in my area of study either (IT)...

    Do you guys have any advice? What should I do? I am becoming rather tired of my own situation...

    Thanks in advance.
    Find out what you have an interest in, fast, and then put everything you've got into it. Or as Joseph Campbell put it, "follow your bliss."

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    I agree with firstfloor's advice. If you can find some work - maybe part time? - that will give you experience, some money, and a sense of achievement.

    Other thoughts -

    If you are close to finishing your studies, you should most probably complete them. Shows persistence, gives you a qualification (which shows your ability etc). You may be able to parlay your IT skills into work in more appealing areas.

    Set yourself some goals - then break them down into the steps you need to complete to get them. Make a chart or plan for each goal, with the steps on it, and start working towards those steps. Put the chart somewhere you can see it, and mark off as you complete steps - make them small enough to be achievable!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Seeker View Post
    I am 25 years old, I have never properly worked in my life, I live off my mom's, I only study (online graduation), but I have absolutely no interest in my area of study either (IT)...

    Do you guys have any advice? What should I do? I am becoming rather tired of my own situation...

    Thanks in advance.
    Figure out what you love to do, and find a way to get paid to do it.
    Every problem is the result of a previous solution.

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    Quote Originally Posted by firstfloor View Post
    Find any job to establish habit of going to work and earning your own money. Think about what does interest you and look for opportunities in that direction. Think about what a potential employer is looking for and train yourself for that role.

    Apprenticeships?

    College courses often do not train people for work. In most cases, work skills are learned by working.
    Okay. Who hijacked ff's account and used it to post some pretty sound advice?

    I'm always still in trouble again

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    Quote Originally Posted by JimL View Post
    Find out what you have an interest in, fast, and then put everything you've got into it. Or as Joseph Campbell put it, "follow your bliss."
    If, say, watching TV, playing video games and eating pizza happens to be your "bliss" then you might wanna rethink that since I seriously doubt many people can make a living doing that. But if you can then more power to ya.

    I'm always still in trouble again

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    I would add, have a backup plan. If career A doesn't work out the way you'd like, have a plan for career B. Trust me.
    Curiosity never hurt anyone. It was stupidity that killed the cat.

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    And realize that you may need to do something you're not wild about doing while pursuing the thing you want to be doing.
    Every problem is the result of a previous solution.

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    This is common among young men, no stable sense of self-worth, no sense of respectable place in society. You're not a trust fund kid like JimL, therefore get a job. Passion has its time and place, and should have the least priority over the much more important stuff. This is not to say that you should plunge into the rat race and start a soulless career, but deal with the most important things first.

    In order, pray and read Scripture. Regularly exercise. Be pragmatic about passion, and get a job.

    First get the sense that you can stand on your own two feet, then start pursuing passion.
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