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    Book Plunge: Wired For Intimacy: How Pornography Hijacks The Male Brain

    What's the harm with porn?

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    What do I think of William Struthersís book published by IVP? Letís plunge into the Deeper Waters and find out.

    Women are beautiful. Seriously. If the only evidence I had for the existence of God was my wifeís beauty, I would say the case is closed. I honestly can understand why some men get obsessed with pornography. We want to see beautiful women and they are such a mystery to us.

    Pornography seems like an easy fix then. You get to see women and you get to experience their beauty. You donít really harm anyone either. Right? Whatís the harm.

    Struthers writes that there is a great deal of harm. I want to stress at the start that I know pornography is becoming more of a problem for women as well and Struthers would not deny that Iím sure, but his main focus is writing about men. Men are often the ones who are much more the pursuers when it comes to sexual love and men donít tie sex to emotions as much as women tend to. Men and women on average tend to treat sex very differently.

    Struthers writes from a biblical perspective, but also from a psychological perspective. He writes about how men view sex and how pornography is degrading to them as men and degrading to the women. Pornography doesnít enhance the joy of sexual pleasure. Instead, it winds up diminishing it. This book is ten years old and I think even more now itís diminished than it was before. Today, there are men who are in their 20ís on viagra because they canít get an erection watching real women because theyíve been watching women in porn for so long.

    Struthers writes about the psychological and chemical effects that pornography has on the brain. He talks about how it is that a man experiences sexuality and how women should be aware of that. He writes about how many men experience shame with pornography and how it affects them. Sadly, there are too few men today who do not have any experience with pornography.

    He also helps build up a worldview of sex and how it should properly be exercised in a marriage covenant between a man and a woman. This doesnít mean that single people donít have to have a proper worldview of sex. A single person has ways of bringing glory to God in their celibacy that a married person doesnít. A married person has ways of bringing glory to God in their marriage and sexual intimacy that a single person doesnít.

    Also is the need for good masculinity. Today, we hear a lot about toxic masculinity. For many sadly, masculinity is measured by how good a man does in the bedroom. Naturally, a man wants to do good in the bedroom, but his masculinity is measured by far more than that. The measure of a man is really how much he can love, and when it comes to marriage, that will include showing love in the bedroom, but it also includes showing love everywhere else.

    Also, men do need intimacy and by that is not just meant sex. There is a myth among women that all a man wants is sexual release when it comes to the act of marriage, which is just wrong. A man really wants to feel close and connected and loved by his wife and sexual intimacy is one of the loudest ways that a man gets the message that he is loved and accepted like that.

    Finally, thereís a section on rewiring and restoring. There is hope and redemption for those whose lives have been damaged by pornography. Repentance and forgiveness is available to all who have stumbled.

    I really encourage you to get this book and do something to address the problem of pornography. To sit alone looking at a computer screen to get aroused doesnít require you to be a man. It just requires you to have a male body and a working computer with an internet connection. To go out and be a husband and maybe eventually a father as well, that requires you to be a real man. To have the desires for women but not feed them by viewing porn also requires you to be a real man. Go that route.

    In Christ,
    Nick Peters

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    Just holding my wife makes me feel masculine. The pleasure I give my wife makes me feel masculine. Release, not so much.
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    Quote Originally Posted by One Bad Pig View Post
    Just holding my wife makes me feel masculine. The pleasure I give my wife makes me feel masculine. Release, not so much.
    Agreed.

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    Porn? I don't even like the literary version that supposedly appeals to women. It's creepy!
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