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    Some Thoughts On PornHub and Sex Trafficking

    Please get help if you struggle with porn.

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    How should we view women today? Letís plunge into the Deeper Waters and find out.

    A news story is out about the FBI looking into groups like PornHub for sex trafficking. For those of us who know something about the porn industry, that sex trafficking is involved is not news to us. Itís not to say that all women in the industry are victims of sex trafficking, but I have no doubt that some are.

    So letís talk a bit about porn and why it should be shut down.

    Now in the past, if you wanted to look at pornography, you had to go somewhere secret and be discrete. You had to go to the magazine stand or to the video store and there was a chance you could be caught. Unfortunately, with the good of the internet came the evil of porn and then rule 34. That states that if it exists, there is porn of it on the internet. No matter how innocent you think something is, there is porn of it out there somewhere.

    As I drive around Atlanta, I listen to talk radio. Everyday practically, I will hear a commercial about erectile dysfunction. Itís constant. Why is this? I always tell my wife the same thing. I suspect it happens so much because so many men have watched porn for so long that they canít easily be aroused by a real woman. They only go with a fake one.

    This is not to say that all causes of erectile dysfunction are due to pornography. Saying women in porn videos are fake is not to say they are not real people. It is to say that what is presented is a false idea of what women and sex are meant to be.

    As a man in charge of a group for guys on Facebook who are Christian and married, engaged, dating, or hoping to date and marry, when I meet a man about to marry, I ask him if he would like to talk about what to expect. This is something every guy (And every girl) needs if they havenít had sex before their wedding night. One thing I always tell them is to think back to what you have seen on TV and movies. Think back to all the sex you have experienced on there. Now throw it out because none of it is realistic at all.

    In the movies and I am sure in porn, everything works flawlessly. There are no mistakes. There are no accidents. No one has to put down a towel. No one gives a touch that is not liked. The woman and the man have perfect ecstasy together and they both orgasm at exactly the same point and everything is wonderful.

    Sorry. Real sex will involve trial and error for some time and you will always be learning.

    So men get a false idea of what sex is.

    Not only that, it leads to a consumer mentality of women. Women are objects just to be wanted for their bodies. The purpose of a woman is to parade before a man in all her naked self and let him glorify himself in her. On porn, the woman on the other end is irrelevant. You donít have to know her name or care about her or do anything for her whatsoever. She is your servant entirely.

    Now I am not at all knocking the idea that a woman is beautiful. I saved myself for marriage and when I see my wifeís body in all her glory I am utterly amazed and mesmerized. After nearly ten years of marriage, Allie is still the woman out there that totally turns my head. She is my great gift and I will jump at any chance I can to see her body.

    Thatís the way God made it too.

    You see, the beauty then inspires me. If I want to have the joy of Allieís body, I need to treat her right. I need to love her. I need to honor her. Now even if I donít feel those things at the start hypothetically, which I think happens in arranged marriages, by doing those actions over and over, I come to love and honor her because it becomes habitual and habits change your thinking. For me, loving Allie is really second nature now.

    I donít go and say ďI canít see Allieís body now for reason XYZĒ and jump on to porn instead. That treats her body like a consumable good. I can say that when I see her body, I do see her physical form and I am amazed, but the beauty I see goes beyond the physical. It is not just her body in a transcendent way. It is as if I am seeing her. I am seeing not just her form, but I am seeing vulnerability and trust. I am seeing her. How she is to be with me and me with her is how we are to be before God.

    Pornography will teach you that the purpose of the woman is to serve you. If you are married though, your purpose is to serve your spouse. Women are to seek to please their husbands, as so many husbands like to say, but husbands are to seek to please their wives. It doesnít just mean doing something on Valentineís Day or anniversary or birthdays or special events like that. It means doing something every day that you can. Believe it or not guys, it wouldnít kill you to get out the vacuum cleaner every now and then.

    Pornography cheapens the people in your life and will make it harder for you to love. In sexuality, itís important to know what pleases you or else your spouse wonít know how to bring you the happiness they should want to bring you, but your main goal should be to please your spouse. Many a guy will say that despite the idea that sex is all they want, they are not really pleased with sex if they do not think they have pleased their wives. That is their real goal.

    Now I realize that women also struggle with porn. This is not to diminish that, but as a man, it is easier to write to the men. The women can find their own parallels, but if you struggle with porn, please get help. Get an accountability partner. Get some software on your computer and other devices that can hold you accountable. Join a group like Celebrate Recovery and get some help. This will not be an easy battle, but it is worth it.

    Remember on those videos also, that girl on there is someoneís daughter as well. She deserves to be treated respectfully and with dignity. Women, for you, please never lower yourself ever to win the heart of a guy. If you have to lower yourself, he is not worth it. You are worth more than that.

    In Christ,
    Nick Peters

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    Do you have any background on this? I saw another apologist mention it the other day, but I (hopefully understandably) do not want to type "PornHub" into a search engine.
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    Why does this remind me of the saying that one ought to love people and use things and never the other way around? Why would a person want to treat another person as a thing to be used for their own pleasure? That sounds wicked!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Christianbookworm View Post
    Why does this remind me of the saying that one ought to love people and use things and never the other way around? Why would a person want to treat another person as a thing to be used for their own pleasure? That sounds wicked!
    To answer your question I ask you to be introspective. Have you ever in your life befriended someone not because of who they were but because of what they provided you? The principle is similiar. Is it wrong absolutely. Is it understandable, yes.

    The truth is though that I dont think even the most cynical or wounded person can live without some form of connection to other people. The sad truth is that parasitic relationships will not really help you get out of your shell. If anything you will want to hide them even if everyone already knows.

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