i've decided that i'm willing to be "unequally yoked"

[Calvinist4Him]

...to the right person. All that i ask it that she respect my beliefs and i'll do my best to respect hers. i understand there would be times when our differences of belief would become a conflicting issue, but i think with the right person, we could work it out. i'm 29 years old folks and i don't have any plans on changing anytime soon (knowing my plans have changed in the past due to this or that whether i planned them or not)...and yes, i would always hope for her to change, but i would also have to be willing to live with the possibility that she doesn't change...and love her just the same.

Anywho, now that i've opened a can of worms, i'm...

[reasonabledoubt]

Are you being serious?

[spiritmech]

Seriously dude, that's not a good idea. You need to be able to pray with your wife. My wife is divorcing me, and there are a lot of things we messed up, and lack of spiritual connection was one of them. I'm not trying to scare you, and I know it gets lonely, but don't sell yourself short. God is looking out!

[Calvinist4Him]

Are you being serious?

Yes.

[Xmansmommy]

A4H, I can relate. I often wonder if I would do the same if the option was available.

[Calvinist4Him]

Seriously dude, that's not a good idea. You need to be able to pray with your wife. My wife is divorcing me, and there are a lot of things we messed up, and lack of spiritual connection was one of them. I'm not trying to scare you, and I know it gets lonely, but don't sell yourself short. God is looking out!

Very few things in this life are guaranteed, and the divorce rate is high even among Christians. My sister, a Christian, has been divorced two times. The second divorce happened after 14 yrs of marriage. My ex-brother-in-law left her for another woman, and has since regretted it. My uncle, a Christian, had to divoce his wife because she left him (for a younger man) after 33 years of marriage. Come to find out, she had been cheating on him for years with her boss! If she doesn't regret it by now, she will later, because she had a good husband.

The only couple i know of, who met in Church, were my grandma and grampa on my dad's side of the family. They were married until my grandpa died (for 50+ years).

Anyway, i've decided that love can overcome differences.

*i made a correction. i think my sister is now in her third marriage.*

[reasonabledoubt]

What do you look like?

[Calvinist4Him]

What do you look like?

Go to the self pics thread and find out. :yeahbaby:

[Calvinist4Him]

What do you look like?

Have you posted any photos of yourself?

[mossrose]

A4H, please don't keep thinking that time is running out for you. My husband and I were married when he was 28, and my son is that age now, and has never even had one girlfriend. He is lonely too, sometimes, but realizes that the Lord's timing is not his, and whatever God has in store for him is the best plan, not necessarily what he himself wants.

And, BTW, I met my husband in church, and you already know that we have been married for going on 32 years.......

There is a plan for you......God has promised so.....Jeremiah 29:11 says......

'For I know the plans that I have for you,' declares the LORD, 'plans for welfare and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope.

See? Plans for a future! And a hope!

So, I encourage you...... don't accept what might be second-best! Wait for whatever God's best for you might be......as long as it might take.......

I am praying for you, sweetie......and I am old enough to call you that.........hang in there, and let God do the matchmaking for you......

[reasonabledoubt]

No, I don't have a photo but I just uploaded one now...by the way, I'm a Christian but just not the "orthodox" brand

[Calvinist4Him]

No, I don't have a photo but I just uploaded one now...by the way, I'm a Christian but just not the "orthodox" brand

i'm looking for your photo....

btw, i noticed your occupation in your profile, and my first thought..."she's intelligent".

[Calvinist4Him]

A4H, please don't keep thinking that time is running out for you. My husband and I were married when he was 28, and my son is that age now, and has never even had one girlfriend. He is lonely too, sometimes, but realizes that the Lord's timing is not his, and whatever God has in store for him is the best plan, not necessarily what he himself wants.

And, BTW, I met my husband in church, and you already know that we have been married for going on 32 years.......

There is a plan for you......God has promised so.....Jeremiah 29:11 says......

See? Plans for a future! And a hope!

So, I encourage you...... don't accept what might be second-best! Wait for whatever God's best for you might be......as long as it might take.......

I am praying for you, sweetie......and I am old enough to call you that.........hang in there, and let God do the matchmaking for you......

Wow...what can i say? Thank you for the encouraging words and prayer!

[Mr. Tinkles]

Anyway, 29 is not old. I got married at 35, it's more fun when you are two grown ups who actually understand their strengths and weaknesses.

[Xmansmommy]

What a wonderful way to view it Mr. Tinkles.