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Originally posted by Teallaura View PostYep. All men should be required to wear them. Even in stilletoes, we girls should be able to outrun them then.Atheism is the cult of death, the death of hope. The universe is doomed, you are doomed, the only thing that remains is to await your execution...
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Originally posted by seer View PostNo, you guys really need to stop wearing those yoga pants in public! It is hard enough trying to be good!"He is no fool who gives what he cannot keep to gain that which he cannot lose." - Jim Elliot
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Originally posted by Cow Poke View PostI would far rather my daughters listen to Chrissie's advice than some pinko commie liberal who refuses to accept that there ARE some things for which we should take personal responsibility. There ARE some things women can do to mitigate risk - that's what Chrissie's comments are about, albeit worded a bit aggressively.
I'm not sure your responses are entirely consistent.
On the subject as a whole, I don't think there is any evidence that lewdly dressed women are more likely to be raped than victorian dressed women. What is a probabillity factor is alcohol, and parties, and places, were large scale consumption of alcohol is expected.
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I'll tell you what surprises me: We got to page 5 of this thread before a woman chimed in. Speaking only for myself, I've made similar mistakes in my distant past with similar results. Adrift suggested CH may be dealing with guilt. I'm not sure it's guilt. I feel much the same as she does, which is to say I think she's trying to express that she made choices that carried consequences. In my case, if I hadn't answered that ad, kept that date, done those drugs, and gone to that apartment, I would not have been so horribly abused back in 1988. I think Chrissy's word choice is a bit extreme, but her recognition that her choices contributed to her experience is what leads to personal growth, as it did for me. I want to kick myself for being so reckless (the title of her book), but that experience taught me a lot about myself, the world, and responsibility. I don't feel guilty, just stupid. Granted, the guy could have been a perfect gentleman, but I was still in a very precarious situation. And, perfect gentlemen don't offer you tons of mind-altering substances if their intentions are pure. At the end of the day, I'm the one who said, "Yes." He is as responsible for his choices as I am for mine.sigpic
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Originally posted by Leonhard View PostHow does this square with your responses earlier that women are not responsible for being the actions of the rapist?
You seem to want to say both that, A) Men who dress lewdly are asking for it,
and partly to blame for the actions of the rapist.
B) Raping someone is an act of freewill, so the guilt belongs to the aggressor.
I'm not sure your responses are entirely consistent.
On the subject as a whole, I don't think there is any evidence that lewdly dressed women are more likely to be raped than victorian dressed women.
What is a probabillity factor is alcohol, and parties, and places, were large scale consumption of alcohol is expected.The first to state his case seems right until another comes and cross-examines him.
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Originally posted by JardinPrayer View PostI'll tell you what surprises me: We got to page 5 of this thread before a woman chimed in. Speaking only for myself, I've made similar mistakes in my distant past with similar results. Adrift suggested CH may be dealing with guilt. I'm not sure it's guilt. I feel much the same as she does, which is to say I think she's trying to express that she made choices that carried consequences. In my case, if I hadn't answered that ad, kept that date, done those drugs, and gone to that apartment, I would not have been so horribly abused back in 1988. I think Chrissy's word choice is a bit extreme, but her recognition that her choices contributed to her experience is what leads to personal growth, as it did for me. I want to kick myself for being so reckless (the title of her book), but that experience taught me a lot about myself, the world, and responsibility. I don't feel guilty, just stupid. Granted, the guy could have been a perfect gentleman, but I was still in a very precarious situation. And, perfect gentlemen don't offer you tons of mind-altering substances if their intentions are pure. At the end of the day, I'm the one who said, "Yes." He is as responsible for his choices as I am for mine.
Thanks for your contribution.The first to state his case seems right until another comes and cross-examines him.
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Here's the deal.....
When somebody like Chrissie posts what she did, there are often two kinds of reactions....
A) Blast her for even THINKING that women are the blame --- even though that's not what she was saying at all
2) Accept the fact that women do - IN FACT - have some power over how vulnerable they are to rape or assault.
A) makes liberals feel better, but doesn't help women one iota.
2) is not politically correct, but may actually save the life of a woman, or keep her from being brutally assaulted.The first to state his case seems right until another comes and cross-examines him.
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Originally posted by Cow Poke View PostHere's the deal.....
When somebody like Chrissie posts what she did, there are often two kinds of reactions....
A) Blast her for even THINKING that women are the blame --- even though that's not what she was saying at all
2) Accept the fact that women do - IN FACT - have some power over how vulnerable they are to rape or assault.
A) makes liberals feel better, but doesn't help women one iota.
2) is not politically correct, but may actually save the life of a woman, or keep her from being brutally assaulted.
If there's some confusion here, it's (A) because you're criticizing "liberals" for arguing that women are not, in fact, to blame for an assault when most everyone on this board, including yourself, has agreed with that argument and (2) because you maintain that it's somehow not "politically correct" to talk about precautions that women can take to avoid assault when absolutely no one argues otherwise."I wonder about the trees. / Why do we wish to bear / Forever the noise of these / More than another noise / Robert Frost, "The Sound of Trees"
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I've wondered why some people make it sound like you can never reduce the chance of becoming a crime victim. Specifically a victim of sexual violence. Though I have heard that you should never get drunk in a place you would not want to spend the night.If it weren't for the Resurrection of Jesus, we'd all be in DEEP TROUBLE!
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I keep saying it, people. More women should be armed and not afraid to use what they have at their disposal. I am very pro "shoot a rapist in the face". I wonder if more of that happened, would these conversations change?"Of all tyrannies, a tyranny sincerely exercised for the good of its victims may be the most oppressive. It would be better to live under robber barons than under omnipotent moral busybodies. The robber baron's cruelty may sometimes sleep, his cupidity may at some point be satiated; but those who torment us for our own good will torment us without end for they do so with the approval of their own conscience." ― C.S. Lewis, God in the Dock: Essays on Theology (Making of Modern Theology)
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Originally posted by Jesse View PostI keep saying it, people. More women should be armed and not afraid to use what they have at their disposal. I am very pro "shoot a rapist in the face". I wonder if more of that happened, would these conversations change?
(eta: I am not Liberal and I have a concealed carry permit, so don't start.)sigpic
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Originally posted by Sam View PostNo one argues with (2). And you've gone from saying that you disagree with Ms. Hynde and that her position is "extreme" to arguing that she's not really saying that it's women's fault for being assaulted, a position contradicted by the OP's (your) source article:
If there's some confusion here, it's (A) because you're criticizing "liberals" for arguing that women are not, in fact, to blame for an assault when most everyone on this board, including yourself, has agreed with that argument and (2) because you maintain that it's somehow not "politically correct" to talk about precautions that women can take to avoid assault when absolutely no one argues otherwise.
It is the fault of the rapist for the rape, but women CAN and SHOULD decrease their chance of being his victim.Last edited by Cow Poke; 08-31-2015, 11:55 AM.The first to state his case seems right until another comes and cross-examines him.
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Originally posted by JardinPrayer View PostI'm not so sure it does change the conversation in this case, except to raise the issue of drunk or drugged-up women wielding firearms. Make. Better. Choices.
(eta: I am not Liberal and I have a concealed carry permit, so don't start.)"Of all tyrannies, a tyranny sincerely exercised for the good of its victims may be the most oppressive. It would be better to live under robber barons than under omnipotent moral busybodies. The robber baron's cruelty may sometimes sleep, his cupidity may at some point be satiated; but those who torment us for our own good will torment us without end for they do so with the approval of their own conscience." ― C.S. Lewis, God in the Dock: Essays on Theology (Making of Modern Theology)
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