o2bwise,
I would like to say, that I am a Trinitarian, who does NOT believe that the Son of God was "the Son" before the incarnation.
The reason why is this: We know that the Son was the Logos, the Word of God, from
John 1:1. We know that through Him, God created everything that was made. John tells us this, and so does Colossians.
In the OT passages in which God appears to men on earth, however, it is always in the form of the "Angel of the Lord." Three angels came to speak with Abraham before the destruction of Sodom, but one angel remained to speak with Abraham:
Gen 18:2, And he lift up his eyes and looked, and, lo, three men stood by him: and when he saw them, he ran to meet them from the tent door, and bowed himself toward the ground, (KJV)
Gen 18:22, And the men turned their faces from thence, and went toward Sodom: but Abraham stood yet before the LORD.(KJV)
So there were 3 angels, but one stays to talk with Abraham, and he is called the LORD (Yahweh).
Later on, Jacob wrestles with an angel all night long. Yet this angel was able to BLESS Jacob, whom he renames as Israel. When Jacob asks the Angel's name, he refuses to give it:
Gen 32:29-30, And Jacob asked him, and said, Tell me, I pray thee, thy name. And he said, Wherefore is it that thou dost ask after my name? And he blessed him there.
30 And Jacob called the name of the place Peniel: for I have seen God face to face, and my life is preserved. (KJV)
This forms a pattern, for NEVER do we hear of the Angel of the Lord giving His name. The only exception is in Exodus, where the Angel of the Lord tells Moses, "I am what I am."
However, when God sends His Angel to go before the Israelites, He has the authority to forgive sins, yet He will not:
Exod 23:20-21, Behold, I send an Angel before thee, to keep thee in the way, and to bring thee into the place which I have prepared.
21 Beware of him, and obey his voice, provoke him not; for he will not pardon your transgressions: for my name is in him. (KJV)
Once again, we see that no name is given. Rather, tyhe name of the LORD (Yahweh) is in Him. This pattern is repeated before the birth of Samson:
Judg 13:18-20, And the angel of the LORD said unto him, Why askest thou thus after my name, seeing it is secret?
19 So Manoah took a kid with a meat offering, and offered it upon a rock unto the LORD: and the angel did wondrously; and Manoah and his wife looked on.
20 For it came to pass, when the flame went up toward heaven from off the altar, that the angel of the LORD ascended in the flame of the altar. And Manoah and his wife looked on it, and fell on their faces to the ground. (KJV)
Note, that not only does this Angel of the Lord refuse to give His name, but He ALSO accepts worship. This is something no ordinary angel would do.
I believe the reason the Angel of The Lord refused to give His name, is because that Name was yet FUTURE. It would be JESUS.
The Son of God BECAME the Son, by virtue of His birth at Bethlehem. Before that time, I find NO evidence that would lead me to believe that He was called the Son.
In His Service,
Steve